Joe, I would definitely take into account the opinions of people who have never even been to the state. If it's a transitional move, I would definitely do it if it will advance your career.
I still like Tulsa way better than OKC (great museums, hills, greenery, etc). There are still plenty of things to do in Oklahoma (is it NYC? Of course not), most here do more outdoor oriented things. Camping, going to the lake, hiking, hunting, etc.
Of course in Hallett, you've got one of the most technical tracks in the country, and also the most laid back ownership. They'll let you take your Miata out on track on Hoosiers with no roll bar, if you're willing to risk it.
All-in-all, it's not a bad place to be, just different. And yes I've been to both coasts, spent plenty of time in Manhattan (my aunt lives a block from Union Square).
Fly down for a weekend and check it out. I'll even drive down to Bricktown from Tulsa and buy you a beer or 10.
If I were in your position I would do it knowing that it would be a temporary stop on your career and from there you could pick your next destination with a bigger paycheck and a higher chance of going somewhere desirable. In the meantime, you could either live close to work for peanuts OR live a little further out and have a heck of a garage/workshop. Heck, maybe take up flying and lease a small plane. In'n'Out isn't but a flight away...
So much hate on the Oklahomas! High salary, low cost of living, way less people than your current environment (a plus in my eyes), a recently revamped track within less than an hour drive, maybe I'm a dullard but there are lots of positives. My 2200 sq ft 4-car was in the 220's brand new.
Women are always a wild card in these games, but if you're thinking seriously enough to come to MT for advice, well then.....
I've done a couple years of the 2-hour NYC commute - no matter how much you try, you'll never be able to convince yourself that it doesn't suck on nearly every level. I've also lived in the Northeast nearly my whole life. Remember this winter, the one that's still going on at the end of March, and how bad it sucked? Perhaps last winter's memory is still with you? How about getting off the train at 8:00 and having to dig out the Miata in 12 degree weather before you go home?
Just go if you want the job. Everything else will sort itself out.
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.(I've always wanted to say that.) You can do a few years in OKC standing on your head. If you're anything like me, the idea of taking advantage of Manhattan's riches on your day off isn't so attractive when you've been relishing the experience all week, anyway.
Small town life can be pretty good - our village in Maine has about 560 people, and it's about the opposite of the NY metro area, in the best sense.
The very remote chance of a tornado pales in the face of a dead certainty that another winter is not far enough away.