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Old 01-09-2009, 06:54 PM
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Originally Posted by hustler
99 problems but a bitch ain't one.

Don't kid yourself, Jay-z has a whole lot of women problems. Don't let his swagger and independent bullshit fool you. Behind all those self-glorifying and self-referencing lyrics there's a really soft and sensitive guy that wants to love and be loved.
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Old 01-09-2009, 07:02 PM
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This is gonna be painful, but sounds like you'd both be better off for splitting.

Don't let the whole "getting finances together" thing drag out either, set a date for her to move out & stick to it.
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Originally Posted by Toddcod
Please don't take offense to this. But this is from personal experiance.

Man, make her move out. "She just want's to get her finances together." Forget that, Make her move in with a "party friend."
And then SHE WILL COME BACK! SAY NO!

I have been through this. They don't want you , but they don't want someone else to have you. You don't owe her anything.

And don't let her have the car. Put her on her ***.... You just got screwed. She made her decision, Now she has to lay in it.

And always avoid her! It doesn't matter if all you friends are at the party or what. If she is there stay away. Change your phone number. Otherwise, you will give in and be in a rollor coaster ride.

End it. She has family she needs to go to them, or a friends. This is killing you. Get her out.

Sorry to hear this happened to you. Good luck man.
I agree 100%. After 7 years, this crap is too much. Just be glad you didn't marry her before this **** started.
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Old 01-09-2009, 07:30 PM
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Appropriate responses


Buh Buy...

Seize ya later...

Don't let the door hit ya on da way out...

Toodle ooh...

Tah Tah...

You need some help boxing up your stuff...

Leave me a forwarding address honey...

Your friend Tina was hot, do you have her number...



7 years was a long time to invest in the old and busted. Good luck and have fun shopping for the new hotness!
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Old 01-09-2009, 07:35 PM
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My *****, your chin.

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Old 01-09-2009, 08:08 PM
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Sounds to me like this chick was your first steady lay and that has you blinded to how bad the situation has truly become. But step back and look at things. She told you she wants to live her own life, even broke off your engagement, and is in all likelihood cheating on you. Sorry man but it doesn't sound to me like a salvageable relationship.

This staying in the guest room stuff is horseshit. You are only inflicting further misery on yourself by allowing the situation to be prolonged. Repo your phone and car. Even moving her **** out to the parking lot and changing the locks wouldn't be unreasonable given the situation. However you do it, she has to go. The sooner she's out, the sooner you can move on to someone better. Just look at all the fine young available women out there.
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Old 01-09-2009, 08:20 PM
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i bought my green miata from a guy who's girlfriend was caught running around on him. lol He took whatever cash I had, lol.

Afford her no courtesy...she didn't when she did this to you. The only way to get back at her is to **** all of her friends, look like a badass while you do it, and love yourself more than the rest.
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tell her she has one week, the end of it.
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Old 01-09-2009, 08:43 PM
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Originally Posted by urgaynknowit
tell her she has one week, the end of it.


One week? They are dating! Not married. She's living in his place. Her stuff should be thrown out on the lawn while she's at work and set on fire when she pulls in driving his car.

If he wants to be a nice guy he could box every last thing up for her and stack it neatly by the front door. Tonight! Get his keys back in exchange for her crap. To really go above and beyond he could help her load it into the taxi he called for her.
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Old 01-09-2009, 09:33 PM
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I agree with everything that's been said except for one thing. I'd talk to her first. Ask her straight up if she's been cheating on you. The signs are there. If she says yes at least you know for sure and can kick her out and move on. If she says no you either believe her for a good reason or she's lying. It should be pretty easy to tell if someone you've known for that long is lying to you. The point is to try to get some closure so if you do kick her out you won't ever be tempted to take her back and won't ever second guess yourself.

And +1 about other girls out there. There are a bajillion, many of them are attractive, many of them are nice good people. So why settle for less. It's easy to forget that especially when you have one manipulating you. We've all been there. Some of us more than once...There's a difference between comfort and satisfaction. And sometimes loving someone is not enough. Things to think about when evaluating a relationship.
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Old 01-09-2009, 09:43 PM
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Originally Posted by johndoe
I agree with everything that's been said except for one thing. I'd talk to her first. Ask her straight up if she's been cheating on you. The signs are there. If she says yes at least you know for sure and can kick her out and move on. If she says no you either believe her for a good reason or she's lying. It should be pretty easy to tell if someone you've known for that long is lying to you. The point is to try to get some closure so if you do kick her out you won't ever be tempted to take her back and won't ever second guess yourself.
and thats exactly what will turn you from man to mayonaise...

f-dat, regardless of the alleged affair she's obvioulsy no longer yours man... she become accustomed to you like a good pair of shoes...

you don't have to be a complete *******, but you do need to end this now. I for one would take a day off work or whatever, pack all her **** while she's out, and even take the spare key (or make a copy) and that SAME day go get the car and park it at a friends house. Pick her up in your car, with her stuff in it already and take her to her family's house....

You need to make sure you fully get the cancer out, otherwise if you give it (her) the slightest chance she'll eat away at you whether you kno wit or not.

Don't be a fool
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Old 01-09-2009, 09:50 PM
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different strokes. I wouldn't want to speculate.
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Old 01-09-2009, 10:04 PM
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let her catch you with another man
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Old 01-09-2009, 10:15 PM
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Originally Posted by johndoe
different strokes. I wouldn't want to speculate.
why does it ******* matter? She's done, throw up the deuce and have some dignity. Self esteem > "maybe"

I'm just about ready to post up "the talk" that I give all the young bucks here.
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Originally Posted by 18psi
let her catch you with another man
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Old 01-09-2009, 10:28 PM
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Originally Posted by hustler
why does it ******* matter? She's done, throw up the deuce and have some dignity. Self esteem > "maybe"

I'm just about ready to post up "the talk" that I give all the young bucks here.
I don't know I guess I like treating people with respect. Especially after 7 years. To me throwing her out with out talking or having a real reason just makes you look like an insecure fagot and not "a man". Suck it up and face the awful truth if that's what it is and then throw her out and let her know that's why. Don't run away from ****.
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Old 01-09-2009, 10:30 PM
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Originally Posted by 18psi
let her catch you with another man
I must admit, this whole time I've been thinking to myself "You're asking for relationship advice about a girl, on a forum about Miatas?"
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Old 01-09-2009, 10:35 PM
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Originally Posted by johndoe
I don't know I guess I like treating people with respect. Especially after 7 years. To me throwing her out with out talking or having a real reason just makes you look like an insecure fagot and not "a man". Suck it up and face the awful truth if that's what it is and then throw her out and let her know that's why. Don't run away from ****.
I would suggest doing something between what you're saying and hustlers advise: tell her its over and send her on her way, but have an "exit interview" so to speak.

I may be really weird, but most serious relationships I've been in if she dumped me, I would ask her to do me a favor and tell me why. Kinda like a "so I can improve in the future" sort of deal.

ask her if she's getting it somewhere else because you just plain suck in bed, in which case send her hustlers way
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that sounds good except for the last part. it'll be a lie either way.
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Old 01-09-2009, 10:41 PM
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Originally Posted by johndoe
I don't know I guess I like treating people with respect. Especially after 7 years. To me throwing her out with out talking or having a real reason just makes you look like an insecure fagot and not "a man". Suck it up and face the awful truth if that's what it is and then throw her out and let her know that's why. Don't run away from ****.
wtf is there to run away from:
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The other day she gives me the ring back and says she wants to do things on her own. She wants to have her own life...not living through my life and my stuff.
What the **** is there to run away from? She gave the ring back and wants out, so the last thing he needs to do is kiss her *** and try to figure out "what went wrong." He needs to go find someone better. I know what I want out of women, and its not hours of watching them ***** through myspace and Montel. Treating someone with respect is not *** kissing.

Of course this sucks major ***, we've all been there...and he will probably be upset about this for a while. However, he can choose to draw that line in the sand and either feel like ****, or have dignity and move forward. Do you want long-term or short-term? The best thing he can do, if he wants her back or not, is to go out into the bustle metropolis of Temple, TX and find someone better. "even if man could understand women, he still wouldn't believe it."

I spent a long part of my life sad and crying like a bitch over women, then after 8-years I realized that it took effort to make yourself happy. If you want to come to Austin and talk to every woman you see, PM me and my sofa is yours. I'll have a high-rise apartment in the Monarch next week.
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