ok paying for dates
 

Ok, so i've been dating my GF for over a year and a half now :bigtu:

Now we were out withanother couple and the discussion of "old fashion" vs "with it" came up as to paying. Does the guy pay all the time? or is the lady suppose to help every now and then. I was just curious as to what most of you have to say.

(I was thinking it depends on the situatioin. Say if one makes a large amount more than the other 15000k or more then yes. If they are kinda close then the girl should help every now and then.) Is that being fair? or a tight wad?

100%, and don't forget to hold the door!

You're in Houston man, she's going to find some dude in a ferrari who will pay.

The woman must pay. If she wants to be respected to any length, she must show some some dignity, and pay for something. Let me go ahead and note that I want a type of woman who does not exist.

Hey I didnt say I dont pay.


But this is exactly what I mean seems most people say 1 or the other. No middle ground

I dated my ex-wife for 7 yrs before we got married... She never paid...I'm still paying....

Now-a-days I suppose it really depends how much you "go out", and if your 30 and still live at home, and of course, whose idea it was to go out for the night/weekend in the first place...

i'm glad to see most people say 100%, the way i was getting ribbed made me feel bad

When my wife and I were dating, she bought me an icecream cone once.:ugh2:

haha, this to me is funny. I don't think a girl has ever paid except for on my birthday.

well.....girls usually square up with me in other ways:cool:

Paying for dates ... thought you were talking about hookers. Oddly enough it isn't far off ;)

Seriously, do whatever YOU feel is the right thing to do. You'll know you aren't doing it correctly when she no longer gives you the lovin'.

I'm 19, been dating a girl for about 1 yr...7 months. when we go on dates, I pay most of the time...when we go out with other couples or groups of friends, it honestly depends, sometimes we split it, sometimes, when I have just paid my car payment, credit card, and got new tires ;D, or when she gets money from her grandparents/parents when we come home from college, she'll pay for both of us, but thats rare.
I still open every door she steps through and treat her like a lady, but she doesn't like being paid for all the time. She figures if shes going to work her way through college like I am, its right to split the bill everyonce in a while....and I'm not going to complain...

thats my .02

my girl and I split. the money we have is what we have. true I have a better paying job during the year but she racks it up during the summer. It all depends on whose got what..... and regardless who pays we always get even. were equals if she wants a sugar daddy she's got the wrong guy. (at least while she puts me through law school).

as for paying to get ass? any nightt of the week I can have a girl pay my meal and drinks, and still take them home (and make them walk home in the morning). some skills are better then money

I feel the general rule is so long as you are just courting her you should pay 100% of the time but when it becomes a real relationship in a sustainable way you should look into sharring the load abit so if the unthinkable happens and you get legally bound together or end up having a little miataphile you will be prepared for situations where sharing your wealth and resources are essential. Relationships need to be balanced on both sides or they will never work if you end up putting in all of hte work and reaping non of the benefits than unless you are a glutten for punishment you should try to see what you can do to balance the situation. just my 2cents

Think you summed it right up (been with my girl for 6 years), although with courting sometimes not paying can help move things along.

I've found it depends on the person, first dates i deffo pay i won't let them pay for the meal / drinks etc, but if its just an odd drink at the bar after the meal then i don't mind her getting me one in, it means she appreciates it i suppose.

When i'm in a relationship with a girl i will pay for everything at first and usually if she is a keeper (as in its going to last more than a few months) i have usually found that they sometimes actually like paying for the odd thing, treating me to going out, this is fine by me.

Longest relationship i've been in is just over two years and that was all quite fair (paying wise) after a year but i did spend more on her than she did me, like a £470 ring for her birthday, foolish now i think about it :slap: :gtfo:

You can still do all the little things like holding the door, buying the flowers when you want... but it really is up to the couple if you are going to split...

Personally, I find that after things get more official as a couple, you automatically start sharing the bills.... I don't mind being taken out for something, or spliting, or whatever works... sometimes it comes down to who has money in the pocket.....

But that's important... you better know how to share now, cause if you get into a permanent relationship, and you can't talk money, that ain't going to be good....

I say, see where the cookie, or bill crumbles.... <G>

Dave,

I've been with my current gf for over a year now and we share our income, but in the first few months we were dating I paid for everything. Now that live together (have for the last 8months) me paying for everything wouldn't fly for to long, but she likes spending her money on me aswell so it works out great.

I have been with my girlfriend for about 3 years now, usually I pay for everything, but she likes to buy us dinner every now and then, but thats about it, usually I have to pay for everything else.

I pay ladies for dates all the time. :ky:

i'm in the beginning of a brand new relationship in which the chic knows my salary. the last 2 wks we've been dating, i've covered for all expenses. but now she protests and automatically proffered the dough. i'm grateful and she seems happy.

this Q really depends on with whom you're dating... ethnically, culturally, socially and monetarily speaking.

When I was a bachelor, hell yes pay as much as possible... in lieu of paying, I cooked.

As a married man, if I run out of money, the wife pays.