Originally Posted by Prospero (Post 450835)

Wow I guess it is time for me to share some useless old man advice!

I've been in your shoes before when I did the same thing to my wife's baby. I built her a 311WHP Volvo S70 with coilovers and more. She drove this car for 2 years and was a beast about taking care of "Nadia"... Zaino polish every other weekend, never curbed 18" X 10" HRE wheels... she loved this car more than me!!! So long story short, took the car to a local Mazda dealer to have its value given for a trade on a MS3...for shits and giggles. Well they ended up destroying the trans and chassis by going over speed-bumps at 40 MPH in front of their building. Sparks...chunks of plastic, red goo was a'leakin! The bastard even curbed the wheels pulling it into the parking space after bitching about the car not liking bumps and it had no value for trade. I pointed out that he f'd my car and had many people in the showroom see what he did... He just destroued my wife's car in front of me and 5 other people! I was yelling and screaming in the showroom when he hit the first of 5 bumps... the GM even came out to see what was going on!

Okay... fast forward to me leaving the lot in a brand new 07 MS3 for a damn great deal! Drove to my office and asked my wife to meet me there for the ride home cuz it was getting late. She walked into our parking garage and she kept looking for her Volvo... happened to walk past the MS3 and she saw HER tags on SOME JAP CAR! Uhhh OOOoooooh!

I paid for the car and was begging for mercy! She cried, I shit you not, for a week and we did not talk very much. She was pissed at me and the dealer. The MS3 was only a reminder of her Volvo and she hated it!

Now we're 2 years down the road... she loves the MS3 and grew into it; but we are also divorced as of last week. She loved her Volvo and wants it back... she even asked me to look for her old car and she'd trade me anything for Nadia back! Arhg..... love.... (for the car)

Alright, so basically what I am saying... nothing willl replace the car that got totalled. You need to do the right thing and buy her a car with no obligation or financial risk. If this means parting your car... maybe not all the way... but sell some parts and get her a $5k ride that will be nice and cheap to operate. Then make her a promise that inside of 3 years you will buy her any car she wants! (It is a test of love; she won't take advantage of you... too much) With any hope she will see that you gave up one of your loves for her and you will come out on top! By her saying to not part your car... she's trying to help you not feel the pain she is feeling from her loss. So go and do what hurts... she will love you more for it! Sacrifice would not be Sacrifice without pain!

Anyhow good luck and cheers,
Matt

Originally Posted by Prospero (Post 450835)

So long story short, took the car to a local Mazda dealer to have its value given for a trade on a MS3...for shits and giggles. Well they ended up destroying the trans and chassis by going over speed-bumps at 40 MPH in front of their building. Sparks...chunks of plastic, red goo was a'leakin! The bastard even curbed the wheels pulling it into the parking space after bitching about the car not liking bumps and it had no value for trade. I pointed out that he f'd my car and had many people in the showroom see what he did... He just destroued my wife's car in front of me and 5 other people! I was yelling and screaming in the showroom when he hit the first of 5 bumps... the GM even came out to see what was going on!

Matt

Originally Posted by zoomin (Post 452357)

ummm, no comparison to what happened to gospeed, sounds like you just have more money than common sense, sorry!

Originally Posted by Bond (Post 452362)

This is why I don't let people drive my vehicles unless I have seen them drive.

I like how you slipped in "We just got divorced."