Why am I such a bitch?
05-06-2012, 09:56 PM
#41
When men are looking for women, they want "physcally attractive" - when women are looking for men, they want "social status". Ugly b!tches always complain about how guys only like "sexy girls", and that we don't care about personality. I'll tell you what, ugly b!tch, I'll stop caring about what you look like when you stop caring about how much money I make, or how many friends I have, or how much personal "self-motivation" I have. They all translate to either current or future social status.
Want to attract women? Here are a few starting points for you.
1. Looks
Women have it easy - they merely have to look like a good fukk. As a man, you have it hard - If you want the 10s hitting on you based on appearance alone, you have to look like you're a self-made millionaire, and there's a LOT more to looks than just the way you dress.
2. Friends
You want friends - a LOT of friends. They should be competing for your time, not the other way around. It's important to have guy friends, not just girl friends. A guy with only "girlfriends" is "one of the girls", and you will be immediate "friend zone" 100% of the time. A guy with guyfriends who respect him and compete for his time is the "pack leader". You should have numerous "girlfriends" *because* you have guyfriends, and *most* if not all of your girlfriends should want your ---- in their mouths.
3. Social Skills
I'm going to go out on a limb here, and say that this is where you think you're lacking. The best way to improve here is to find random groups of people to hang out with who want to be social - do this *without* taking any of your own friends along, and if you want to make progress, you'll need to FORCE yourself to not try to hit on any girls. Try "meetup.com" if you want to break out a little bit. The second best way to improve is to go to bars by yourself and just have conversations with the people sitting next to you at the bar. More important that "being able to talk to people" is humor. If you have ever read through personal ads, you already know that lots of women want a guy who "makes them laugh" - In a world of women who don't know what they want in a man, "humor" is probably the one trait that women instinctively know they need in a lover. Women are hard to understand because they "don't know what they want" - this is absolutely true, with one exception - Humor. Humor conveys a lot of other traits: the first and most obvious of those traits is confidence. If a cute girl is sitting between two guys she doesn't know at a bar and spills ketchup on her shirt, one guy's immediate reaction is to grab a napkin and offer it to the lady while the second guy looks at her and almost cockily says "damn girl, I can't take you anywhere..." Chances are she's going to be giggling to herself at the second guy while she says "thank you" for the napkin. A different girl on the outside of the conversation would strongly urge this cute chick to go for the guy who offered the napkin, but every girl who herself was in that situation would immediately take a liking to the guy who cracked a joke on her. If you've ever wondered why the "twilight" series was so popular with women, this psychological conundrum is exactly that reason. The werewolf guy would give anything for the girl, but the vampire guy constantly has her in a state of drama. The movie is psychologically accurate to suggest that the girl would end up with the dramatic vampire guy, while "logically thinking" women watching the movie would, for the most part, want her to end up with the werewolf guy. No Homo - merely a *no ***** example of women not knowing what they want.
4. Confidence. You have to have confidence building experiences to become confident, so until that happens, you have to fake confidence - which is hard as ---- to do. When you're going somewhere and you're well dressed, walking in front of your group of 3 friends, you need to display beaming self confidence, and when a girl does look at / talk to you, she needs to feel like she's being judged by you on whether or not you're going to let HER into YOUR world. If a 9 or 10 walks up to you and you immediately "invite her into your world" either by words or (more likely) vocal tone and body language, you've already lost her. Instead of turning your body toward her (bad) and mildly raising your vocal pitch (very bad), keep your body position as it is, and turn only your head, or maybe only your eyes toward her. If she offers her hand to "shake", then reluctantly shake her hand briefly before withdrawing your own hand - but not so fast as to convey your own internal panic of the situation. Lastly, lower your vocal tone instead of raising it, you're not talking to a customer over the phone, you're talking to a girl who stands a chance at singlehandedly ruining your world if you allow her to. Don't smile at her as if she just handed you a million dollar check, but you can grin just a little bit after you crack your first joke about the "I want attention" belt she's wearing, or the 5,000 silver bracelets she's wearing on her left wrist. Remember, if you're a man of elite social status, you're going to have women wanting you all of the time. You're going to have women who want to steal your money, women who want your status to vault their own careers, and women who want you to buy them things. Every new woman you talk to should feel like she's being "tested" or evaluated to make sure she's not going to drain you in one way, shape, or form.
Want to attract women? Here are a few starting points for you.
1. Looks
Women have it easy - they merely have to look like a good fukk. As a man, you have it hard - If you want the 10s hitting on you based on appearance alone, you have to look like you're a self-made millionaire, and there's a LOT more to looks than just the way you dress.
2. Friends
You want friends - a LOT of friends. They should be competing for your time, not the other way around. It's important to have guy friends, not just girl friends. A guy with only "girlfriends" is "one of the girls", and you will be immediate "friend zone" 100% of the time. A guy with guyfriends who respect him and compete for his time is the "pack leader". You should have numerous "girlfriends" *because* you have guyfriends, and *most* if not all of your girlfriends should want your ---- in their mouths.
3. Social Skills
I'm going to go out on a limb here, and say that this is where you think you're lacking. The best way to improve here is to find random groups of people to hang out with who want to be social - do this *without* taking any of your own friends along, and if you want to make progress, you'll need to FORCE yourself to not try to hit on any girls. Try "meetup.com" if you want to break out a little bit. The second best way to improve is to go to bars by yourself and just have conversations with the people sitting next to you at the bar. More important that "being able to talk to people" is humor. If you have ever read through personal ads, you already know that lots of women want a guy who "makes them laugh" - In a world of women who don't know what they want in a man, "humor" is probably the one trait that women instinctively know they need in a lover. Women are hard to understand because they "don't know what they want" - this is absolutely true, with one exception - Humor. Humor conveys a lot of other traits: the first and most obvious of those traits is confidence. If a cute girl is sitting between two guys she doesn't know at a bar and spills ketchup on her shirt, one guy's immediate reaction is to grab a napkin and offer it to the lady while the second guy looks at her and almost cockily says "damn girl, I can't take you anywhere..." Chances are she's going to be giggling to herself at the second guy while she says "thank you" for the napkin. A different girl on the outside of the conversation would strongly urge this cute chick to go for the guy who offered the napkin, but every girl who herself was in that situation would immediately take a liking to the guy who cracked a joke on her. If you've ever wondered why the "twilight" series was so popular with women, this psychological conundrum is exactly that reason. The werewolf guy would give anything for the girl, but the vampire guy constantly has her in a state of drama. The movie is psychologically accurate to suggest that the girl would end up with the dramatic vampire guy, while "logically thinking" women watching the movie would, for the most part, want her to end up with the werewolf guy. No Homo - merely a *no ***** example of women not knowing what they want.
4. Confidence. You have to have confidence building experiences to become confident, so until that happens, you have to fake confidence - which is hard as ---- to do. When you're going somewhere and you're well dressed, walking in front of your group of 3 friends, you need to display beaming self confidence, and when a girl does look at / talk to you, she needs to feel like she's being judged by you on whether or not you're going to let HER into YOUR world. If a 9 or 10 walks up to you and you immediately "invite her into your world" either by words or (more likely) vocal tone and body language, you've already lost her. Instead of turning your body toward her (bad) and mildly raising your vocal pitch (very bad), keep your body position as it is, and turn only your head, or maybe only your eyes toward her. If she offers her hand to "shake", then reluctantly shake her hand briefly before withdrawing your own hand - but not so fast as to convey your own internal panic of the situation. Lastly, lower your vocal tone instead of raising it, you're not talking to a customer over the phone, you're talking to a girl who stands a chance at singlehandedly ruining your world if you allow her to. Don't smile at her as if she just handed you a million dollar check, but you can grin just a little bit after you crack your first joke about the "I want attention" belt she's wearing, or the 5,000 silver bracelets she's wearing on her left wrist. Remember, if you're a man of elite social status, you're going to have women wanting you all of the time. You're going to have women who want to steal your money, women who want your status to vault their own careers, and women who want you to buy them things. Every new woman you talk to should feel like she's being "tested" or evaluated to make sure she's not going to drain you in one way, shape, or form.
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05-06-2012, 11:09 PM
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I think it depends on what drugs. If she hits the bowl every now and then...so what.
If she makes crystal meth in her bathtub while shooting heroin...she needs to go.
If she makes crystal meth in her bathtub while shooting heroin...she needs to go.
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05-06-2012, 11:30 PM
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Then it depends on how much she likes to party. Friday after work "I gotta powder my nose" like pulp fiction during dinner coke habit? Tolerable.
It's 7:30 am on a Tuesday and I'm on the way to work with no sleep cause I got coked up on Sunday after church...not acceptable.
It's 7:30 am on a Tuesday and I'm on the way to work with no sleep cause I got coked up on Sunday after church...not acceptable.
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05-07-2012, 01:07 AM
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Coke?!? Run, run now. It will go bad to worse. I had an ex that was a coke head and when I found out she went nuts. Well she was crazy before. I guess I figured out why. If its a once a in a few months party thing, meh. If its anymore often than that ditch her. That and when she stops she'll get fat. IF she ever stops. Also you run the risk of getting pulled over in your car and her possible getting caught and taking you down with her
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05-07-2012, 01:09 AM
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Then it depends on how much she likes to party. Friday after work "I gotta powder my nose" like pulp fiction during dinner coke habit? Tolerable.
It's 7:30 am on a Tuesday and I'm on the way to work with no sleep cause I got coked up on Sunday after church...not acceptable.
It's 7:30 am on a Tuesday and I'm on the way to work with no sleep cause I got coked up on Sunday after church...not acceptable.
Occasionally. She says mostly when she is drunk.
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05-07-2012, 08:03 AM
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Kick her out. There is only one direct path if you stay with her, and it leads to faefae on an episode of COPS where he gets busted for possession and they confiscate his car.
Look on the bright side - one day you'll see your car sitting at an elementary school with D.A.R.E. written on the side of it, and a fat police officer sitting in it eating a jelly donut as the grape filling oozes out of the back of it, dripping onto his lap.
Remember what I said about how easily a girl can "singlehandedly ruin your world if you allow her too" - this is why you have to objectively evaluate women before you let them into your world.
Look on the bright side - one day you'll see your car sitting at an elementary school with D.A.R.E. written on the side of it, and a fat police officer sitting in it eating a jelly donut as the grape filling oozes out of the back of it, dripping onto his lap.
Remember what I said about how easily a girl can "singlehandedly ruin your world if you allow her too" - this is why you have to objectively evaluate women before you let them into your world.
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05-07-2012, 10:39 AM
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Well my issue is not so much the deug use but rather the minths-after-the-fact honesty.
Personally i dont do any illegal or scrip drugs but i think everything should be legalized to lower crime. I myself do not like coke because who knows what that ****** powder is. At least with weed you know it is a plant. Same thing with most pills. Seems risky to me. Then again, so is a turbo miata that goes 0-60 in 4 or fewer seconds.
I have always had a twndancy to be controlling in relationships. I feel that if someone is doing something with their body that doesnt hurt temselves too much or me then i need to in general be accepting of it.
Personally i dont do any illegal or scrip drugs but i think everything should be legalized to lower crime. I myself do not like coke because who knows what that ****** powder is. At least with weed you know it is a plant. Same thing with most pills. Seems risky to me. Then again, so is a turbo miata that goes 0-60 in 4 or fewer seconds.
I have always had a twndancy to be controlling in relationships. I feel that if someone is doing something with their body that doesnt hurt temselves too much or me then i need to in general be accepting of it.
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05-07-2012, 10:45 AM
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just one guy's opinion here, but one-size-fits-all woman advice is a sure way to find a woman good for the one-size-fits-all douchebag.
better reading:
and no, I'm not kidding. dont dick around with people who BS you.
better reading:
and no, I'm not kidding. dont dick around with people who BS you.
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05-07-2012, 12:45 PM
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Well my issue is not so much the deug use but rather the minths-after-the-fact honesty.
Personally i dont do any illegal or scrip drugs but i think everything should be legalized to lower crime. I myself do not like coke because who knows what that ****** powder is. At least with weed you know it is a plant. Same thing with most pills. Seems risky to me. Then again, so is a turbo miata that goes 0-60 in 4 or fewer seconds.
I have always had a twndancy to be controlling in relationships. I feel that if someone is doing something with their body that doesnt hurt temselves too much or me then i need to in general be accepting of it.
Personally i dont do any illegal or scrip drugs but i think everything should be legalized to lower crime. I myself do not like coke because who knows what that ****** powder is. At least with weed you know it is a plant. Same thing with most pills. Seems risky to me. Then again, so is a turbo miata that goes 0-60 in 4 or fewer seconds.
I have always had a twndancy to be controlling in relationships. I feel that if someone is doing something with their body that doesnt hurt temselves too much or me then i need to in general be accepting of it.
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05-07-2012, 12:59 PM
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Well my issue is not so much the deug use but rather the minths-after-the-fact honesty.
Personally i dont do any illegal or scrip drugs but i think everything should be legalized to lower crime. I myself do not like coke because who knows what that ****** powder is. At least with weed you know it is a plant. Same thing with most pills. Seems risky to me. Then again, so is a turbo miata that goes 0-60 in 4 or fewer seconds.
I have always had a twndancy to be controlling in relationships. I feel that if someone is doing something with their body that doesnt hurt temselves too much or me then i need to in general be accepting of it.
Personally i dont do any illegal or scrip drugs but i think everything should be legalized to lower crime. I myself do not like coke because who knows what that ****** powder is. At least with weed you know it is a plant. Same thing with most pills. Seems risky to me. Then again, so is a turbo miata that goes 0-60 in 4 or fewer seconds.
I have always had a twndancy to be controlling in relationships. I feel that if someone is doing something with their body that doesnt hurt temselves too much or me then i need to in general be accepting of it.
You need to get away from this woman, you've given us several reasons in this post alone that you need to do this.
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