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Joe Perez 06-27-2016 10:15 PM

The mercilessly Joemental thread
 
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Heather Salcedo, 19-year-old Victoria Repine's mother, told WDAF three people dragged her daughter through the drive-thru window and beat her severely — allegedly over a couple of straws.
(...)
Victoria has a 1-year-old and is three months pregnant with her second child. Salcedo said the last time doctors checked they did hear the baby's heart beat.
So, you're 19 years old, living at home with mom, working at Wendy's and collecting welfare & WIC, you have a 1 year old child (who you foist off onto your mother to care for) and are three months pregnant with #2, meaning that you got knocked up again less than a month after squirting out the first little bastard.

Sounds like they didn't beat you hard enough.

For that matter, how the fuck did you even fit through the drive-through window? And was this Colossus doing the pulling? I call bullshit.

z31maniac 06-28-2016 09:47 AM

It's too bad 19 years is considered "late-term."

JasonC SBB 06-28-2016 09:50 AM

"Judgemental" is spelled wrong. </judgmental> :D

Girz0r 06-28-2016 09:52 AM

Well it took all three of them... :dunno:

aidandj 06-28-2016 09:54 AM

What about the attackers. We have people so spoiled that they beat people up over not handing them straws?

All in all assholes on both sides.

All I got out of this was to stay the fuck away from Missouri

thirdgen 06-28-2016 10:31 AM

I love you Joe Perez.

samnavy 06-28-2016 10:40 AM

I love FOX News... curious why MSNBC didn't run this story?

hornetball 06-28-2016 10:43 AM

The breakdown of social mores and traditional families is so destructive. And providing financial incentive that promotes that breakdown is diabolical.

Based upon last names, I would guess Victoria is also a bastard. It's the only life she's ever known.

Props to Joe for the grammatically and legally correct use of the term "bastard." May not be PC though . . . .

y8s 06-28-2016 10:43 AM

we should implant special explosives in dumb people.

Here's how they will work:

When two dumb people get into close proximity (away from smart people, of course), the devices will arm in both dumb people.

They will be set off by dramatically increased blood pressure, physical violence, or certain trigger words that dumb people often say. We can add more triggers like location geofencing or RFID tags in vape pens, but that's to be sorted later.

Whole thing will just sort of sort it self out until I'm one of the dumb ones and society will be much better.

Braineack 06-28-2016 10:48 AM

How about let people live the shitty lives they create for themselves, but stop letting it be easy for them--especially on my dime...

18psi 06-28-2016 10:50 AM

I bet this happened cause minimum wage is set too low

;)

Braineack 06-28-2016 10:53 AM

On Sunday, the line at panera was too long, so I walked over to the kiosk and ordered...

18psi 06-28-2016 10:55 AM

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AlwaysBroken 06-28-2016 11:40 AM


Originally Posted by y8s (Post 1341898)
we should implant special explosives in dumb people.

You trust our government, that is incompetent and corrupt in every other enterprise, to decide who the dumb people are?

It's like expecting the TSA to realize they are the worst part of airport security and then shoot themselves in the face to improve everyone else's quality of life. It's not going to happen. Expect cavity searches to increase until morale improves.

thirdgen 06-28-2016 12:24 PM

I'm so happy that these people have voting rights.

Braineack 06-29-2016 10:02 AM

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rleete 06-29-2016 12:18 PM

I would give you a dozen props for that comment, if I could. :likecat:

Joe Perez 07-01-2016 09:50 AM

New deets on the Wendy's slut. Unsurprisingly, the video reveals that she was lying her fat, uneducated, welfare-dependent ass off:





The full story: Wendy?s assault in Missouri called into question with new video | New York's PIX11 / WPIX-TV

An excerpt:
"Doctors also checked on her baby, and said there was a heart beat."
Well, that's unfortunate. Looks like a net loss for the gene pool.

18psi 07-01-2016 09:53 AM

She was lying?

YOU DON'T SAY?!!!1111oneoneoneone

Joe Perez 07-01-2016 10:29 AM

Eeyup.

Pro tip: If you choose to jump out of your own drive-thru window to attack a customer, don't claim that they pulled you out if there happens to be a security camera pointed directly at you.


This is why I strongly maintain that, as Orwellian as it sounds, breeding needs to be regulated by the Fed.

z31maniac 07-01-2016 10:50 AM


Originally Posted by Joe Perez (Post 1342793)
This is why I strongly maintain that, as Orwellian as it sounds, breeding needs to be regulated by the Fed.

I think we could avoid the Eugenics, maybe, if we implemented some intelligence/comptency tests to be able to vote. Of course that also would represent an inherently easy system to rig.

OK, Eugenics it is.

Braineack 07-01-2016 11:42 AM

Wait, people lie to push an agenda?

WeHo Sheriff Says Gay YouTuber Faked Hate Crime | Advocate.com


Calum McSwiggan, 26, a YouTuber, posted a photo of himself on social media claiming that he was attacked outside a gay bar in West Hollywood Monday, but the police are telling a different story.

In a statement to The Advocate, Holly M. Perez, captain of the West Hollywood Station of the Los Angeles County Sheriff's Department, said that authorities responded to McSwiggan's report that he was assaulted by three men outside of a gay club. Officers "were unable to substantiate the assault," Perez said. The YouTuber "had no visible injuries" and was arrested when officers went to the scene "after deputies observed him vandalizing a car." The 26-year-old was booked and photographed (photo above) and placed in a cell by himself at the West Hollywood Station. It was there that station personnel say McSwiggan "was then observed injuring himself with the handle and receiver to a payphone inside the cell."


sixshooter 07-01-2016 04:47 PM


Originally Posted by Braineack (Post 1342815)
{Lying about being attacked by straight, white men}

Say it ain't so!

http://nypost.com/2013/08/04/pay-up-...t-for-slander/

AlwaysBroken 07-01-2016 04:50 PM

Wow, I remember that case from my childhood in NYC.

Well I guess the system really does work! It only took 30 years for her to be held partly responsible.

Joe Perez 07-06-2016 12:46 PM

Transgenderism: A Pathogenic Meme
by Paul McHugh June 10th, 2015


The idea that one’s sex is a feeling, not a fact, has permeated our culture and is leaving casualties in its wake. Gender dysphoria should be treated with psychotherapy, not surgery.

For forty years as the University Distinguished Service Professor of Psychiatry at Johns Hopkins Medical School—twenty-six of which were also spent as Psychiatrist in Chief of Johns Hopkins Hospital—I’ve been studying people who claim to be transgender. Over that time, I’ve watched the phenomenon change and expand in remarkable ways.

A rare issue of a few men—both homosexual and heterosexual men, including some who sought sex-change surgery because they were erotically aroused by the thought or image of themselves as women—has spread to include women as well as men. Even young boys and girls have begun to present themselves as of the opposite sex. Over the last ten or fifteen years, this phenomenon has increased in prevalence, seemingly exponentially. Now, almost everyone has heard of or met such a person.

Publicity, especially from early examples such as “Christine” Jorgenson, “Jan” Morris, and “Renee” Richards, has promoted the idea that one’s biological sex is a choice, leading to widespread cultural acceptance of the concept. And, that idea, quickly accepted in the 1980s, has since run through the American public like a revelation or “meme” affecting much of our thought about sex.

The champions of this meme, encouraged by their alliance with the broader LGBT movement, claim that whether you are a man or a woman, a boy or a girl, is more of a disposition or feeling about yourself than a fact of nature. And, much like any other feeling, it can change at any time, and for all sorts of reasons. Therefore, no one could predict who would swap this fact of their makeup, nor could one justifiably criticize such a decision.

At Johns Hopkins, after pioneering sex-change surgery, we demonstrated that the practice brought no important benefits. As a result, we stopped offering that form of treatment in the 1970s. Our efforts, though, had little influence on the emergence of this new idea about sex, or upon the expansion of the number of “transgendered” among young and old.

Olympic Athlete Turned "Pin-Up" Girl

This history may clarify some aspects of the latest high-profile transgender claimant. Bruce Jenner, the 1976 Olympic decathlon champion, is turning away from his titular identity as one of the “world’s greatest male athletes.” Jenner announced recently that he “identifies as a woman” and, with medical and surgical help, is busy reconstructing his physique.

I have not met or examined Jenner, but his behavior resembles that of some of the transgender males we have studied over the years. These men wanted to display themselves in sexy ways, wearing provocative female garb. More often than not, while claiming to be a woman in a man’s body, they declared themselves to be “lesbians” (attracted to other women). The photograph of the posed, corseted, breast-boosted Bruce Jenner (a man in his mid-sixties, but flaunting himself as if a “pin-up” girl in her twenties or thirties) on the cover of Vanity Fair suggests that he may fit the behavioral mold that Ray Blanchard has dubbed an expression of “autogynephilia”—from gynephilia (attracted to women) and auto (in the form of oneself).

The Emperor’s New Clothes

But the meme—that your sex is a feeling, not a biological fact, and can change at any time—marches on through our society. In a way, it’s reminiscent of the Hans Christian Andersen tale, The Emperor’s New Clothes. In that tale, the Emperor, believing that he wore an outfit of special beauty imperceptible to the rude or uncultured, paraded naked through his town to the huzzahs of courtiers and citizens anxious about their reputations. Many onlookers to the contemporary transgender parade, knowing that a disfavored opinion is worse than bad taste today, similarly fear to identify it as a misapprehension.

I am ever trying to be the boy among the bystanders who points to what’s real. I do so not only because truth matters, but also because overlooked amid the hoopla—enhanced now by Bruce Jenner’s celebrity and Annie Leibovitz’s photography—stand many victims. Think, for example, of the parents whom no one—not doctors, schools, nor even churches—will help to rescue their children from these strange notions of being transgendered and the problematic lives these notions herald. These youngsters now far outnumber the Bruce Jenner type of transgender. Although they may be encouraged by his public reception, these children generally come to their ideas about their sex not through erotic interests but through a variety of youthful psychosocial conflicts and concerns.

First, though, let us address the basic assumption of the contemporary parade: the idea that exchange of one’s sex is possible. It, like the storied Emperor, is starkly, nakedly false. Transgendered men do not become women, nor do transgendered women become men. All (including Bruce Jenner) become feminized men or masculinized women, counterfeits or impersonators of the sex with which they “identify.” In that lies their problematic future.

When “the tumult and shouting dies,” it proves not easy nor wise to live in a counterfeit sexual garb. The most thorough follow-up of sex-reassigned people—extending over thirty years and conducted in Sweden, where the culture is strongly supportive of the transgendered—documents their lifelong mental unrest. Ten to fifteen years after surgical reassignment, the suicide rate of those who had undergone sex-reassignment surgery rose to twenty times that of comparable peers.

How to Treat Gender Dysphoria

So how should we make sense of this matter today? As with any mental phenomenon, what’s crucial is noting its fundamental characteristic and then identifying the many ways in which that characteristic can manifest itself.

The central issue with all transgender subjects is one of assumption—the assumption that one’s sexual nature is misaligned with one’s biological sex. This problematic assumption comes about in several different ways, and these distinctions in its generation determine how to manage and treat it.

Based on the photographic evidence one might guess Bruce Jenner falls into the group of men who come to their disordered assumption through being sexually aroused by the image of themselves as women. He could have been treated for this misaligned arousal with psychotherapy and medication. Instead, he found his way to surgeons who worked him over as he wished. Others have already commented on his stereotypic caricature of women as decorative “babes” (“I look forward to wearing nail polish until it chips off,” he said to Diane Sawyer)—a view that understandably infuriates feminists—and his odd sense that only feelings, not facts, matter here.

For his sake, however, I do hope that he receives regular, attentive follow-up care, as his psychological serenity in the future is doubtful. Future men with similar feelings and intentions should be treated for those feelings rather than being encouraged to undergo bodily changes. Group therapies are now available for them.

Most young boys and girls who come seeking sex-reassignment are utterly different from Jenner. They have no erotic interest driving their quest. Rather, they come with psychosocial issues—conflicts over the prospects, expectations, and roles that they sense are attached to their given sex—and presume that sex-reassignment will ease or resolve them.

The grim fact is that most of these youngsters do not find therapists willing to assess and guide them in ways that permit them to work out their conflicts and correct their assumptions. Rather, they and their families find only “gender counselors” who encourage them in their sexual misassumptions.

Those with Gender Dysphoria Need Evidence-Based Care

There are several reasons for this absence of coherence in our mental health system. Important among them is the fact that both the state and federal governments are actively seeking to block any treatments that can be construed as challenging the assumptions and choices of transgendered youngsters. “As part of our dedication to protecting America’s youth, this administration supports efforts to ban the use of conversion therapy for minors,” said Valerie Jarrett, a senior advisor to President Obama.

In two states, a doctor who would look into the psychological history of a transgendered boy or girl in search of a resolvable conflict could lose his or her license to practice medicine. By contrast, such a physician would not be penalized if he or she started such a patient on hormones that would block puberty and might stunt growth.

What is needed now is public clamor for coherent science—biological and therapeutic science—examining the real effects of these efforts to “support” transgendering. Although much is made of a rare “intersex” individual, no evidence supports the claim that people such as Bruce Jenner have a biological source for their transgender assumptions. Plenty of evidence demonstrates that with him and most others, transgendering is a psychological rather than a biological matter.

In fact, gender dysphoria—the official psychiatric term for feeling oneself to be of the opposite sex—belongs in the family of similarly disordered assumptions about the body, such as anorexia nervosa and body dysmorphic disorder. Its treatment should not be directed at the body as with surgery and hormones any more than one treats obesity-fearing anorexic patients with liposuction. The treatment should strive to correct the false, problematic nature of the assumption and to resolve the psychosocial conflicts provoking it. With youngsters, this is best done in family therapy.

The larger issue is the meme itself. The idea that one’s sex is fluid and a matter open to choice runs unquestioned through our culture and is reflected everywhere in the media, the theater, the classroom, and in many medical clinics. It has taken on cult-like features: its own special lingo, internet chat rooms providing slick answers to new recruits, and clubs for easy access to dresses and styles supporting the sex change. It is doing much damage to families, adolescents, and children and should be confronted as an opinion without biological foundation wherever it emerges.

But gird your loins if you would confront this matter. Hell hath no fury like a vested interest masquerading as a moral principle.

Paul McHugh, MD, is University Distinguished Service Professor of Psychiatry at Johns Hopkins Medical School and the former psychiatrist in chief at Johns Hopkins Hospital. He is the author of The Mind Has Mountains: Reflections on Society and Psychiatry.

http://www.thepublicdiscourse.com/2015/06/15145/

JasonC SBB 07-06-2016 01:55 PM

I love listening to podcasts.
This episode of Radiolab is about some guy who bounces back and forth between feeling female and feeling male. As in, in mid conversation. Weird, to say the least.
Radiolab Presents: Invisibilia - Radiolab


Joe Perez 07-06-2016 02:15 PM

Yeah, I remember that one from a few months ago. The part where they do a one-on-one interview with the guy in the third act just seemed so... sad.


For those who don't listen, Radiolab (which in addition to being a podcast is an actual radio show on NPR) is worth an hour a week.

Joe Perez 07-17-2016 10:03 AM

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samnavy 07-17-2016 12:48 PM


Originally Posted by Joe Perez (Post 1346882)
Guess that gender...

Since my first reaction was "I'd hit it"... I'm hoping for female, but I'd settle for "currently female", or perhaps even "currently identifying as female".

Joe Perez 07-17-2016 01:07 PM

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Originally Posted by samnavy (Post 1346894)
Since my first reaction was "I'd hit it"... I'm hoping for female, but I'd settle for "currently female", or perhaps even "currently identifying as female".

I will admit that I've found myself in precisely this scenario in the past. Not with that particular one, mind you, but just generally. My taste in women is... diverse.


Anyway, I came across this picture recently while doing research for an "I'm offended" post:

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Someone, some male person with a functioning dick, said to themselves "Yeah, I'll tap that."


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I find that fascinating.

hornetball 07-17-2016 03:07 PM

Against all odds, life finds a way . . . .

Joe Perez 07-17-2016 03:23 PM


Originally Posted by hornetball (Post 1346924)
Against all odds, life finds a way . . . .


https://cimg7.ibsrv.net/gimg/www.mia...c50e1a4e5d.png


Ariana Richards, the actress who portrayed John Hammond's granddaughter Lex, was born on September 11, 1979.


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Joe Perez 07-18-2016 02:26 PM

Here's a story about a ghetto princess who just delivered her third set of twins in 26 months: Metro woman has three sets of twins in 26 months | fox4kc.com

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20 years old, unmarried, and has already popped out six kids. Why? "I love babies"

No surprise that she can't actually afford to care for all those kids, and has a GoFundMe page set up.




Does anyone remember back when GoFundMe was for shit like charities, paying for cancer treatment for little girls, and making potato salad? Not for the scum of humanity to support their breeding habit...




Actually, I did find one GoFundMe project that make sense to me. See if you can guess based on the following image.

https://cimg6.ibsrv.net/gimg/www.mia...c8b97b3d16.png

This lovely specimen, who identifiers herself only as "Bailey" and is, in her own words "currently unemployed, completely broke, in debt, and in no position to hold down a job," is crowd-funding her abortion. Props to you, Bailey, for correctly identifying that you are not fit to be a mother.

Meet the Girl Who's Crowdfunding Her Abortion | VICE | United States

calteg 07-18-2016 05:54 PM


Originally Posted by Joe Perez (Post 1342793)
Eeyup.

Pro tip: If you choose to jump out of your own drive-thru window to attack a customer, don't claim that they pulled you out if there happens to be a security camera pointed directly at you.


This is why I strongly maintain that, as Orwellian as it sounds, breeding needs to be regulated by the Fed.

I don't understand why eugenics is such a bad word in this country...

Itty 07-18-2016 05:58 PM

Nazis

Joe Perez 07-18-2016 06:03 PM


Originally Posted by Itty (Post 1347231)
Nazis


Itty 07-18-2016 06:23 PM

Yes, also, this one is more appropriate (because internet):

https://cimg6.ibsrv.net/gimg/www.mia...a7cfffc1f6.jpg


Joe Perez 07-20-2016 09:42 PM

Some more winners:

Women on tubing trip get stranded overnight because they thought the river ran in a circle

The headline isn't exaggerating. It's not hyperbole. These three geniuses literally got themselves stranded in open water and had to be rescued by passing fishermen because they went tubing on a river and genuinely believed that it ran in a circle and would bring them back to where they started.

https://cimg2.ibsrv.net/gimg/www.mia...dd64cbb47a.png


A river. A body of water with a free-flowing current. They thought that it magically ran in a circle, defying all laws of physics and hydrodynamics.

18psi 07-20-2016 11:34 PM

electrolytes

Braineack 07-21-2016 06:56 AM


Originally Posted by Joe Perez (Post 1347867)
Some more winners:

Women on tubing trip get stranded overnight because they thought the river ran in a circle

The headline isn't exaggerating. It's not hyperbole. These three geniuses literally got themselves stranded in open water and had to be rescued by passing fishermen because they went tubing on a river and genuinely believed that it ran in a circle and would bring them back to where they started.

https://cimg2.ibsrv.net/gimg/www.mia...dd64cbb47a.png


A river. A body of water with a free-flowing current. They thought that it magically ran in a circle, defying all laws of physics and hydrodynamics.

dammit joe, i was just about to post this here.

Joe Perez 07-21-2016 09:12 AM


Originally Posted by Braineack (Post 1347894)
dammit joe, i was just about to post this here.

... and yet you didn't.

https://cimg4.ibsrv.net/gimg/www.mia...e7366ae5e8.png


You can have the cops, but this is my thread, bitch. :giggle:

hornetball 07-21-2016 12:26 PM

But Joe, the lazy river at Atlantis does run in a circle. I've floated it for hours with my grandkids . . . always brought me back.

???

mgeoffriau 07-22-2016 02:54 PM


Originally Posted by Joe Perez (Post 1347867)
A river. A body of water with a free-flowing current. They thought that it magically ran in a circle, defying all laws of physics and hydrodynamics.

"All three women stated that they were never going tubing on the river again, but that they looked forward to next weekend's trip to the water park."

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sixshooter 07-22-2016 03:31 PM

The water park is better. Some days there's music by MC Escher.

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They need a water park. That way they can be close to the nanny state that protects them from their own stupidity.

Joe Perez 07-24-2016 12:24 PM


Originally Posted by mgeoffriau (Post 1348377)
(Escher)


Originally Posted by sixshooter (Post 1348392)
(Escher)

I wish I could +:likecat: in this thread.





Moving on...






Few are the number of days in which I can't even. This is one of them.

Hopefully your choices, Katy, will not significantly disrupt the development of your [gender-neutral descriptor for son / daughter.] Though I doubt it.




Why I’m raising my child outside of gender assumptions and stereotypes
By Katy Chatel July 22


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I like to dismantle assumptions. I questioned assumptions about sex, gender and identifying characteristics long before I had a child. Being a parent, though, gives me fuel to counter stereotypes. I don’t want my child to feel limited by gender and the expectations of others. I’m not trying to raise my child without gender; I’m trying to raise him with a consciousness and freedom to express himself and embrace others.

When I was pregnant I chose not to reveal the sex of my fetus. I knew it, although sometimes I said I didn’t. Many people — both close and unknown — were aggravated with me for not sharing the information. I withheld my fetus’s sex not to annoy everyone, but because I wasn’t ready to let this information out before anyone, including me, had met my child.

I chose not to reveal Jessey’s sex on his birth announcements because I wanted to share my excitement in welcoming this new baby into the world, not as a baby whose sex would be synonymous with girl or boy but as a baby who had yet to be named. I waited to name him because I felt he needed time adjusting from existing in utero to living in the wide open world. There needed to be a pause to give him the opportunity to make himself known — to try out different names and gauge his response. I felt and still feel similarly about gender. Individuals should be free to express gender as they see fit. I had been told that genderization starts in utero. Witnessing it made it feel all the more ridiculous. I even had a family friend warn me, “You better like yellow because everything you’re gonna get will be yellow unless you fess up.”

Yellow. Somehow yellow has been designated the gender-neutral color of our era. There was a time when pink was the color for boys. A fascinating 2011 article in the Smithsonian Magazine documents the social trends when Franklin D. Roosevelt was growing up in the late 1800s. At that time, boys wore dresses and kept their hair long until age six or seven. Jessey is almost 3 and his long wispy curls add to the visual cues that make people assume he’s a girl.

[How my daughter and I turned around the princess play at least a little]

From infancy, Jessey had an array of clothes in different colors, patterns and styles. Some handmade, some marketed to boys, others to girls, and many gender-neutral hand-me-downs and thrift-store finds. From the time he could grasp objects in his hands, I have let Jessey pick his clothes. I hold up two outfits (both weather-appropriate and usually quite different from each other) and let him choose. Now that he is capable of rifling through his stacked outfits, he often matches his own. Mostly he wants whatever is comfortable: Footy pajamas, leggings, sweatpants, in that order.

I chose not to reveal Jessey’s sex on his birth announcements because I wanted to share my excitement in welcoming this new baby into the world, not as a baby whose sex would be synonymous with girl or boy but as a baby who had yet to be named. I waited to name him because I felt he needed time adjusting from existing in utero to living in the wide open world. There needed to be a pause to give him the opportunity to make himself known — to try out different names and gauge his response. I felt and still feel similarly about gender. Individuals should be free to express gender as they see fit. I had been told that genderization starts in utero. Witnessing it made it feel all the more ridiculous. I even had a family friend warn me, “You better like yellow because everything you’re gonna get will be yellow unless you fess up.”

Yellow. Somehow yellow has been designated the gender-neutral color of our era. There was a time when pink was the color for boys. A fascinating 2011 article in the Smithsonian Magazine documents the social trends when Franklin D. Roosevelt was growing up in the late 1800s. At that time, boys wore dresses and kept their hair long until age six or seven. Jessey is almost 3 and his long wispy curls add to the visual cues that make people assume he’s a girl.

[How my daughter and I turned around the princess play at least a little]

From infancy, Jessey had an array of clothes in different colors, patterns and styles. Some handmade, some marketed to boys, others to girls, and many gender-neutral hand-me-downs and thrift-store finds. From the time he could grasp objects in his hands, I have let Jessey pick his clothes. I hold up two outfits (both weather-appropriate and usually quite different from each other) and let him choose. Now that he is capable of rifling through his stacked outfits, he often matches his own. Mostly he wants whatever is comfortable: Footy pajamas, leggings, sweatpants, in that order.

We made it to the top of the hill. “I think maybe a goyle,” he said.

I love moments like these. I don’t want my child to struggle with internal identity but I want him (or her) to critically think and to consider things that many of us were (and still are) raised to assume.

The other night we stopped in the fire station. Jessey was in purple leggings and his new favorite top with a rainbow splash of hearts.

“It’s okay, come on in,” one of the firefighters said, waving to us. “Don’t be shy,” he said to Jessey.

People often assume that Jessey is shy when he is in clothes where he passes as a girl. Soon we were sent to a newbie firefighter. He walked us around the fire trucks, never offering to let Jessey climb inside. Sometimes the firefighters are busy. Sometimes they’re tired. They’re at work. That night they’d just come back from a run, but something told me that if Jessey were wearing a fire truck shirt they would have offered him a boost into the driver’s seat.

The newbie handed Jessey a helmet, then took it back, saying, “Don’t want to mess up your pretty hair.” During our visit I avoided using pronouns, feeling unsafe calling Jessey he. Where was my fuel in the face of such blatant gender bias? Maybe Jessey’s generation will be braver and more open than we are, and will challenge assumptions more.

We can’t change the way our children identify, nor should we. Boys will be boys or be girls or be boys regardless of the labels we assign. We honor each other by not forcing these constraints. We can change the way they feel about their identity. It is hard to imagine any parent wanting their child to feel shame, embarrassment or loneliness. Even for children who naturally lean far to one side of the gender spectrum, we dishonor the next generation if we don’t allow for gender and cultural assumptions to be questioned. We hurt our village of children when we don’t hold the door to the world open wide enough.

From what I see so far, Jessey is growing into a self-assured person who is not easily thrown by different perspectives. He is open to seeing others as individuals. I can’t raise my child in a utopian bubble, nor do I want to, but I hope we continue to grow in an environment with other families who question assumptions and strive to raise liberated children.

Katy Chatel is a writer and single mother by choice living with her son in Philadelphia.

ryansmoneypit 07-24-2016 04:16 PM

Just another hippie, worried that normal behavior is somehow unfair and biased. Just like my cousin who let's her 4 year old run around naked, because she wants the child to make their own decisions and not be bound by the constraints of normal society.

Guardiola 07-25-2016 07:36 AM

Letting kids run around naked, especially in the summer months, is very common. America tends to frown on kids being naked after a certain age, but most of the world's beaches will show you that it is just fine to continue to go naked your whole life. You have to remember that America was founded by prudes and religious nut-jobs that were thrown out of Europe. I say go naked. Any embarrassment or shame you feel is not normal. Teaching your kids to be comfortable with their bodies only helps their self-esteem.

Joe Perez 07-27-2016 08:26 PM

Saw this:


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Assumed it was BS, so I used google to backtrack. Found the tumblr feed of the bluehair: I love purple fedoras and my tits are huge



Her page is just mind-bending. Here's her "about me" section: About Me

Originally Posted by whiney blue-haired loser
about me

hi!! i’m riley and i’m 18! i’m an art major at colorado mesa university in grand junction but i’m originally from colorado springs (and before that, i lived in columbus, georgia for ten years)

i’m neutrois and i mostly use they/them pronouns, but sometimes i use others. this will be posted in my sidebar. i consider myself woman-aligned and very feminine, but never use she/her pronouns. please do not call me female, a girl/woman, or use she/her pronouns for me.

not sure what i am in terms of sexuality. i identified as asexual panromantic for a while, because i very rarely/never experienced sexual attraction, but i am uncertain about this now. i am attracted to people of all genders, but i greatly prefer girls and woman-aligned people. for the most part, i’ve just started calling myself bisexual to make things easier. also, i’m polyamorous!

i try my best to tag all common triggers, but if there’s anything i miss, please send me an ask and i’ll tag it for you! i answer pretty much every message i receive, so feel free to ask me stuff.

my interests include cosmetology, colorguard/winterguard, marching band & drum corps, astrology (placements: libra sun, cancer moon, capricorn rising, sagittarius dominant), dogs (my favorite breeds are borzoi, samoyeds, and all herding dogs), girls, cisphobia, misandry, and the classic and groundbreaking film “titanic” (1997, dir. james cameron.) i will accept any and all asks about these topics at absolutely any time.

i have two dogs and a gecko! i have a 5 year old border collie named cassie, a 1 ½ year old goldendoodle named teddy, and a juvenile snow leopard gecko named frosty. if you want to look at them, check out #cassie and #teddy. i don’t have a tag for frosty yet. probably gonna be hashtag frosty.

if we’re in a mutual: please tag #wasps, #bees, #eye gore/#eye horror, #needles - i have huge phobias of these and seeing pictures of them can make me have a panic attack. for completely alternate reasons, please tag me in pictures of borzoi if you ever reblog them; this is the one thing you can do to win my heart guaranteed.

here’s a list of things i tag (general trigger warning for mentions of sensitive subjects in link)


Yup. And here's the section where, I shit you not, she lists her privileges: List of Privileges


Originally Posted by whiney blue-haired loser
list of privileges

privileges:
  • white
  • thin
  • conveniently physically abled (i do have a physical disability, see below for more clarification.)
  • currently reliant on a middle class family (i am in college; my parents make around 60k a year and are paying for my dorm and my $30 phone plan as long as i stay on good terms with them. after i graduate - in two years, hopefully - i will not be receiving their support.)
  • dfab trans (as in, i do not experience transmisogyny; see below for more clarification.)
  • not intersex

disadvantages:
  • not straight (i identified as asexual panromantic for a while - i’ve since stopped using those terms for more personal reasons and am trying to work out my identity, but i do still experience attraction to people of all genders. for clarity’s sake, i mostly identify as bisexual for the time being.)
  • neuro-atypical/disabled (i have been diagnosed with OCD, ADHD, autism; i am formally undiagnosed but know i have generalized anxiety disorder, PTSD, psychosis, sensory processing disorder, and clinical depression, and i believe i have paranoid personality disorder and either dependent or borderline personality disorder. i also have plantar fasciitis, which severely impairs my ability to stay on my feet for long periods of time. however, it only flares up on days where i have to do 2+ hours of standing/walking, and it is unnoticeable as long as i am sitting. i am able to push through it in essential circumstances. additionally, i have very poor vision and rely on glasses to see.)
  • trans/non-binary (my exact gender is somewhere between agender and neutrois, and i consider myself to be transgender.)
  • feminine presenting/woman-aligned (despite this, i consider myself exclusively non-binary and only use they/them pronouns. sometimes i jokingly call myself a girl; however, other people misgendering me as female causes me a good deal of dysphoria.)
  • sex worker (not full service)

What in the actual fuck?

I honestly had no idea that real people actually said shit like that. dfab trans? asexual panromantic? neuro-atypical? exclusively non-binary? Her "interests" include misandry?

Referring back to the political / current events thread in which cordycord accused me of being a liberal eugenicist... this is the kind of special snowflake who needs to learn what actual oppression is the hard way.

hornetball 07-27-2016 08:37 PM

All I could see was "huge tits" and "sex worker."

Those are my trigger words.

Tailhooker and all that stuff.

sixshooter 07-27-2016 09:06 PM

She'll be able to work full time as a sex worker when her parents get tired of her shit. That, and with an art degree she can be a barrista.

fooger03 07-28-2016 08:30 AM

Too many kids without daddies, methinks.

I'm pretty sure that the great equalizer in the no-spanking generation is men who are truly manly - I'd like to imagine that the no spanking generation started when a single female spanker got to know the children of a manly man (and his womanly wife) and then spread the word about how great kids can be when they're not spanked, completely ignoring the fact that her children didn't have a manly man in their life.

And then children who grow up without manly men for daddies tend to be either girly men or sexist women, and girly men and sexist women tend towards being single parents themselves - it's all a terrible death spiral.

I propose that we neuter all girly men - for the sake of humanity.

TurboTim 07-28-2016 12:31 PM

"Sex worker (not full service)" WTF does this mean? No back door?

ryansmoneypit 07-28-2016 12:52 PM

I hope the partial service comes some sort of preparation.

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hector 07-28-2016 12:55 PM

I think it means you can't piss or shit on her. IDK, I heard that in a movie once.

Its sad how she hates being labeled as a "girl" but she'll label herself in any other way imaginable. Fucking generation is obsessed with labeling everything, personal or otherwise.

It's worse than the yuppie introduction of "hi, what do you do for a living?" "Work, fucker, that's what I do for a living!"

Today it's "LOL! So you're like a progressive, huh?" "No, I'm not an anything. I think all political groups are corrupt and I hate labels!" Conversation over.

That's how I get rid of Jehova's Witnesses that want to preach to me. I tell them I'm an atheist (yes I labeled myself) and they just look at you stumped. Can't convert a non-believer.

aidandj 07-28-2016 12:56 PM

https://cimg4.ibsrv.net/gimg/www.mia...a2a98bf97d.jpg


sixshooter 07-29-2016 04:45 PM

^Have vagina, will babble.

It's a shame her parents didn't ever tell her to shut the fuck up and that her opinion didn't matter because it wasn't her house.
I thank my father for that advice. It has served me well.

Braineack 08-10-2016 07:59 PM

I think Joe might like this one


Braineack 08-11-2016 07:14 AM

Her car was shot at btw, she was an older black woman who didn't see the asshole in the middle of the street, and she didnt stop because of mob of violent black criminals were shooting guns.

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Police give more details of crash, shooting at Ferguson protest | Law and order | stltoday.com


Officials revealed fuller details Wednesday of a Ferguson protest eruption the night before, in which several people fired shots into two vehicles after a man was struck by a car, apparently by accident.

Nobody was hit by gunfire that came from multiple directions, according to a statement from the city, and there were no reports of arrests.

Police have not yet located the man who was knocked down by the car on West Florissant Avenue just north of Ferguson Avenue just after dark. Friends whisked him away before paramedics arrived, leaving investigators to contact hospitals to try to identify him.

Ferguson police said he had ignored warnings to get out of the street.

The driver of a Chevrolet Impala told officers she was distracted by the 75 to 100 protesters when she struck him. Officials said, “All evidence supports her account of not seeing a person standing in the street, until it was too late to stop before hitting them.”

The driver was “too afraid to stop as she left the scene to contact police,” according to the city statement. Her car was struck by multiple bullets.

Police said a second vehicle, carrying two people and stopped at a signal nearby, also was struck by gunfire.

UnmuteThe incident happened during protests observing the second anniversary of the death of Michael Brown.


Joe Perez 08-11-2016 08:47 AM

Serious question:

If your job involved driving a large van with an extendable mast holding a microwave dish sticking out of the top of it, do you think maybe you'd check to be sure that garage doors are open all the way before attempting to drive through them?


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https://cimg4.ibsrv.net/gimg/www.mia...ca5c549ee5.jpg

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deezums 08-11-2016 08:56 AM

I don't see a problem, as long as he was driving slowly.



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