Well, using brute force, and my anger, I was able to get the WG off of that odd turbo that I have. Now, I fit the WG I have from my smaller turbo, which is set at 5 ish psi (yay!).

If you look at the picture, you can tell what help I need. how can I attatch the WG I have to the valve on the turbo? any ideas?

Thanks for the help guys, i know ive been a pain!

btw- the old wastegate had alot of oil in it, there must have been a bad seal. good thing I rebuilt it!

 

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edit- im thinkin of getting some steel tube, and welding each nut to a end.

 

You can attach the rods a number of ways, it doesn't really matter. Some tube with the nuts welded to it would be fine.
You need to make sure you have the actuator rod straight though, if you bind it at all it won't work right.