Why can't said fucktards move to California with their parents? This is your parents' problem--not yours. Selling the house and moving their stuff across the country is their responsibility. They're using you to take the easy way out. It's not fair to you to put that type of pressure on your new marriage.

If you love your g/f, then the money you would save may not be worth fucking up your marriage for.

yeah, make sure your parents and fucktards know you love them and move out and live with your gf/fiance/wife.

haha lol, well my younger brother is 23, lazy peice of shit who never graduated high school and only holds a job long enough for my parents to get off his back. my younger sister is 22 but also has a 2 year old son. She's not so much lazy, she works but for some fucking reason doesn't know how to watch her kid and my brother ends up watching her kid all the time. it's kind of a complicated web of scenarios. The job my father is aiming to take on i supposed to only be 2-5 years and my parents want to enjoy california if at all possible while they are there. i don't know it's pretty messed up, i'm just hoping something happens that makes my decision for me so i don't have to worry about it

uh yeah, I agree with your fiancee, time to cut that shit off and move on with your own life, earning equity and gaining net worth in your own home.

^^well if it is like that dump emm

Yep. By you being the parent/taking responsiblity at home you are only enabling your brother to be a slacker too.

Definitely sounds like a bad situation that's only perpetuated itself. Locking up the house sounds like an easy way to make things change- for everybody. Aren't you sick of baby sitting your siblings? I'd suggest renting rooms to the bro and sis to "assign" some responsibility BUT I don't think that'll fly since it's "mom and dad's" house. I think your parents need to rent the house, give you a % as property manager, which in turn you can save for your house purchase.

I'll send you an angry Italian grandmother to live w/ the siblings for awhile. Bet you my miata that your brother and sister shape up real quick.

sounds like the fucktards learned from your parents, dump shit on you!!!
make it stop, the sooner the better, only reason they are dragging their feet is because they can, with your parents in cali and you living on your own, im sure your brother will pick up some slack as soon as he gets hungry...
good luck, but you need to look after yourself, not saying ditch your family, but it sounds like you have done too much for them already...

I'm sure you love your parents but do you want to actually be your parents?

I think you should be the one finding a killer job someplace else and moving.

When I thought maybe they were teenagers, I was thinking you should stay in the house. BUT; at their ages and no disabilities other than lazy, move on with your new wife and life.

stay in the house and kick the fucktards out

thanks for the encouragement guys. the other problem is the thought of buying a home right now with no signs of stability scares me, it'll be interesting to see what happens when the houses start hitting the market in the spring.

i just closed on a house a week ago, you gotta buy now before evryone else starts lookin...it creates demand and sellers hold onto their prices, but then again i know nothing about your market place

Perfect time to buy now. Just do your homework and don't overpay. I have a sister-in-law that waited too long to sell. She could have gotten over 500K for a small house in a nice town. Now she can't get offers around four.

If you decide to buy, try to get pre-approved to a certain limit by a bank/lender before you get too far. My brother did that and practically stole his house because he could close in 2 weeks - the sellers needed to sell NOW and nearly wet themselves because they could. Market's getting crappy, at least around me, and if you don't need to sell a place first and you're approved already, you have a big advantage.

getting pre approved is pretty easy, you can do it over the phone. i called my broker in the afternoon for the application, and he called me back the next morning for the approval and faxed me the pre-qual sheet.

I agree - NOW is the time to buy a house AND "they" want you to buy. I don't get the issue with stability - I thought you had a job. And I think your parents are nuts not to rent the place, especially if their "golden boy" is there to manage it. :D

+1 on the moving out. What if a few years in CA for your parents turns into a longer term stay, then what? If it was just for a year, then maybe, but it could easily end up that they want to stay out there b/c they love it and you're stuck here with the house and kids and pissed off wife.

i'm already pre-approved, and i don't think now is the time to buy in my area, houses have been sitting for over a year and in the spring when more go up for sale there will be more to pick from since i still can't find what i'm looking for, and have been looking for a year and half. also there should be rate cuts next, month and again in april.

the stability i'm speaking of is in terms of my localreal estate market, the bubble has finally burst here but people are still dreaming of what they could have gotten 2 summers ago, things are on the downturn here and should continue to do so, catching it closer to the bottom saves me tons in the long run. if i miss out, oh well live at home some more, i refuse to make a poor buying decision