How (and why) to Ramble on your goat sideways
I hope for the best but if that isn't an option I hope it happens peacefully. Sorry man.
20 years ago, my sister had a major medical event and came home from the hospital for a very short period of hospice care before she passed away. Toward the end, she lost consciousness after which I flat out refused to enter the room so as not to see her that way. I was there at the house when she passed on the next day, and again, my family implored me to go see her one last time as she still lay "as if sleeping" in her room. Again, I refused for the same reason; being a very visual person, I simply could not bear to think of those images of her being the last. To this day, I have never regretted my decision and I still remember her vividly as being happy, alert, and alive. I'm sorry you're going through this.
It's your call though.
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I'm sorry for what you are going through, Roger.
I don't ever think open casket funerals are a good idea, either. It's never the same and doesn't improve the experience, but rather makes it worse.
I don't ever think open casket funerals are a good idea, either. It's never the same and doesn't improve the experience, but rather makes it worse.
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Don passed peacefully Sunday morning around 10:30. Both women stayed at bedside all night, and when they went to make a pot of coffee the next morning, he slipped away in his sleep.
I took my son down later that day, and just got back. Helped the MiL clean up some things and get some of his personal stuff sorted. He was more than just a Father-in-Law to me, being also a hunting mentor and drinking buddy. He will be missed.
I took my son down later that day, and just got back. Helped the MiL clean up some things and get some of his personal stuff sorted. He was more than just a Father-in-Law to me, being also a hunting mentor and drinking buddy. He will be missed.
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Thanks, guys. I spent 2.5 hours Saturday evening and 2.5 hours Sunday afternoon in a receiving line.
My feet were sore Saturday (damned dress shoes), but quite a few people showed up, including all the guys from hunting camp. Lots of stories to tell, lots of memories to share. A bunch of people came back with us to the house and shared the mountains of food that had been delivered there. Nearly all of it home cooked. Gotta like close knit communities.
Sunday was packed. There were at least 80 chairs set out, and it was standing room only for the service. Pretty impressive for a small town of less than 3400. Don was a great guy, and touched a lot of lives. Air Force Honor Guard was on hand to fold the flag and present it to his wife. She gave me the flag afterwards, which I will place in a display case as soon as I find one. Both children got a small brass urn with a portion of the remains in a velvet box. Larger box with the remains will go to the veterans memorial in Bath, NY.
Afterwards, we all headed over to the local American Legion hall for a memorial luncheon, where we ate and told more stories about Don. Later, the hunting guys all headed up to the camp to have a toast to Don.
My feet were sore Saturday (damned dress shoes), but quite a few people showed up, including all the guys from hunting camp. Lots of stories to tell, lots of memories to share. A bunch of people came back with us to the house and shared the mountains of food that had been delivered there. Nearly all of it home cooked. Gotta like close knit communities.
Sunday was packed. There were at least 80 chairs set out, and it was standing room only for the service. Pretty impressive for a small town of less than 3400. Don was a great guy, and touched a lot of lives. Air Force Honor Guard was on hand to fold the flag and present it to his wife. She gave me the flag afterwards, which I will place in a display case as soon as I find one. Both children got a small brass urn with a portion of the remains in a velvet box. Larger box with the remains will go to the veterans memorial in Bath, NY.
Afterwards, we all headed over to the local American Legion hall for a memorial luncheon, where we ate and told more stories about Don. Later, the hunting guys all headed up to the camp to have a toast to Don.
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Is it just me, or is it kind of weird / funny that, of all the users on this forum, the staff seem to own / have recently owned a disproportionately high percentage of the oldest, most craptastic 1.6 Miatae around?
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Once I clean it up, it will still be one of the better 23 year old cars with 137K on the body out there.
But it doesn't matter cause Shuiend makes up for it since he owns like 30 miatas!
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My last one was really that bad. Granted, it was one of the better 24 year old cars with 210,000 miles on the body, but that's a bit like saying that "Beauty and a Beat" (feat. Nicki Minaj) is one of the better Justin Beiber songs out there.
Last I heard from the guy who stole it, the tailpipe literally fell off while he was driving it.
Part of me wants to buy a PRHT NC. Another part wants to buy a first gen (98-07) Smart ForTwo and do something hilariously insane to it, like install a turbocharged Hayabusa engine.
Last I heard from the guy who stole it, the tailpipe literally fell off while he was driving it.
Part of me wants to buy a PRHT NC. Another part wants to buy a first gen (98-07) Smart ForTwo and do something hilariously insane to it, like install a turbocharged Hayabusa engine.
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I don't need another project car anytime soon, and I already dumped most of the money recovered from it into photography equipment.
I'll probably inherit a 96 300zx TT one of these days and go from there...
I'll probably inherit a 96 300zx TT one of these days and go from there...
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Mine's really not that bad. I kept it up well, but it started degrading as it sat for almost two years in the elements without being driven. The only issue with mine is little odds and ends.
Once I clean it up, it will still be one of the better 23 year old cars with 137K on the body out there.
But it doesn't matter cause Shuiend makes up for it since he owns like 30 miatas!
Once I clean it up, it will still be one of the better 23 year old cars with 137K on the body out there.
But it doesn't matter cause Shuiend makes up for it since he owns like 30 miatas!
That is far worse then the miata. Such a pita to work on.
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FTFY.
Yeah, I measured the freight elevator and a 1st gen ForTwo would actually fit into it, but there's no way it could negotiate the turn out of the elevator on the 11th floor, nor will it fit through the door of my apartment.
I'm probably going to be moving come September- not entirely certain where just yet. One of the appeals of the first-gen car, however, is that it only measures 98.4" from nose to tail, and will therefore fit perpendicularly into a regular on-street parking space, kind of like an Isetta. (Actually, that's the car I'd really love to have here.)
I'm probably going to be moving come September- not entirely certain where just yet. One of the appeals of the first-gen car, however, is that it only measures 98.4" from nose to tail, and will therefore fit perpendicularly into a regular on-street parking space, kind of like an Isetta. (Actually, that's the car I'd really love to have here.)