female probs.....longwinded rant inside!!!
 

Aright, so i'm living in VA Beach for school, i went home last weekend to see my girfriedn (about 2.5 hours away) and everything was great. Monday morning when i took her home (17 still living with mom and im only 18 for the record) her mom started tripping out on her for something, still not even sure exactly what. anway she told me to leave (her mom) but my GF was begging me to stay close by to make sure she was ok...so i did. Well, i call her mom and try to talk to her reasonably and figure out what the hell is going on so i can atleast tell her bye before i go 3 hours away for the next two months (her mom had already taken away her phones, etc.. at this point) and she started acting like a freakin 3 year old, bitching at me, saying she was gonna call the cops b/c i was stalking her house, etc... when i had been there for 10 minutes trying to say goodbye to my girlfriend.



ANYWAY...they work stuff out over the next few days, everything gets kinda back to normal....until...last night she and her mother were going out to eat somwehere and i was on the phone with her while they were headed there....i dont even know now what brought it up but her mom said something along the lines of "he better not push his luck he still hasn't apologized to me for his sh*t monday!" so i proceed to tell christy (my GF) that i wasn't going to apologize to a 40 year old woman who started acting like a fucking 4 year old when her daughter's 18 BF was trying to make sure she was ok.....about three seconds later my GF says "well, he says he sorry" so i blow up at her....she hangs up, calls me a little while later and says it's over....if this was like a 2 week relationship, oh well, i don't give a fuck, but we've been together for over two years, now i know she has alot of other stuff going on in her life, but should i just let her go, or try to fight to get her back?....i do still love her after all this though



Sorry for the long rant...just needed to get that off of my chest...i'd appreciate any advice but i understand if noone wants to try to tell me what i should do.....

(oh if it makes any difference in how you guys feel about her, she was with me when the diff went last week, and she was just as upset, if not more, than i was about it!!!)

too much drama. kick her to the curb and find some local tail.

god da**it, why do people keep saying that? i don't wanna leave her, but i'm starting to think maybe i should.....

it's just that we've been through alot together, about a week after we hooked up her dad passed away, about a week later her mom tried to committ suicide, so i think that's why we've been so close the whole time, but i don't know, i do love her (and she tells me that she still loves me, but sometimes that's just not enough....whatever that's suppost to mean) but it's just gettin to be too much...for both of us.

she's 17, you haven't been through shit together.

you're whining and bitching over a 2 week relationship?

wtf

i know comparitevly we haven't but still....we have been through alot in the amount of time we've been together....her fucking dad died a week after we got together and i drove her to alabama to be there......that's gotta count for something

no...two year, almost 6 month relationship

oh my mistake, I read it wrong

but still, staying with someone 2.5 hrs away and with psycho fucking parents is never fun. Trust me, it never gets better when there are crazy family nearby

well, we were together when i lived there for just over two years, just moved down here for school (i'll be moving back there for good in about 6 months) but as soon as she moves out...her mom is moving back to alabama and she wants to stay here....so no crazy family nearby

There are certain "rules" in a relationship. One of them is you don't get between your g/f and her mother. You violated that rule, bad move considering she lives at home. Consider the position that you put your g/f in, where she had to choose between her b/f (3 hours away) and her mom (next to her).
You're not supposed to get along with your g/f or wife's mom. They're all insane. If it's asked of you, you swallow your pride and apologize, if you mean it or not. You'll find over time that certain things aren't worth arguing about.

no big deal....except for the fac tthat i was ready to leave...but my G/F was begging me to stay and try to talk to her mother (ye si know it sounds weird and i probably shouldn't have) but then we she asks me to apologize for somethig she asked me to do..i say no...and she tells her that i apologized, that just struck me wrong for some reason.......am i wrong in the whole situation?

you've been dating since she was 15?
you're fucked. Her mom hates you, she lives with her mom. Her mom will rag on you until she believes it.

not to mention she's way too young for anything serious.

I would definately go get some local tail. Women are a very touchy subject, and you are only 18 years old man. There are other fish in the sea. Try to mend the wounds with this one, if it does not work after some effort, go after something else. Good luck man.

she was 15 yes....but i was 16......her mom's never really around...bnut when she is she's USUALLY ok, then she gets on little trips like last week and blames all of her problems on christy, and all christy's problems on me, so i guess she does pretty much hate me...so i guess i'm just gonna let shit go between us and maybe in a few months/years they'll work themselves out, if not oh-well

thanks guys
Brian

Yes, you're wrong, even if you're not wrong. You're dealing with women!
Consider that her mom is already giving your g/f an ear full about you, so she's in an akward position. Then you only made it harder on her.

A couple "rules" will become obvious to you with time:

• Never get between your g/f and her family, especially her mom
• Always take your g/f's side
• Don't do anything to embarass your g/f in front of her mom

You violeted all 3

But for rizeal, she's 3 hours away. Local tail FTW

sounds like mommy is bi-polar. tell her to get some meds before she ruins her daughters life and move on.

i have told her.....and she is.....shes admitted that she is.....i think shes already ruined her life pretty much, i just dont know how much worse it's gonna get with me not being there to help her out anymore....i really do still love her, i care about her, i just cant take catching the shit for EVERYTHING that goes wrong anymore....i know that's any relationship though, that's why part of me want to try to work things out. guess im just leaving it to her

ive been in your shoes man... you are much better letting go.. you have a long time to work things in your life out.. if shes not in it, then thats just how its gonna be, but you gotta make sure you think about you... I knwo it may seem like you gonna loose it all.. but believe me, you are much better waiting a few more years to make that decision... Im glad i did

I'm gonna let her decide what she wants to do from here...

oh........one more little piece of the puzzle....she's a month late...that might change things a little (even though it's happened before, usually when she's really stressed...like now...and it's been nothing)

Man that kind of relationship isnt' healthy for you in the slightest. Living down here is totally different when it comes to relationships. Compared to where I lived in Alaska there is so many women down here that if one causes problems you just move on. I concurr about never getting between a girl and her mother way to much stuff happens then.
So i'm +1 for finding someone local. Being apart from each other causes unnecessary drama on top of having a psycho/suicidal mother that doesn't like you already.

Good lord man you're 18, better hope that it's just cause she's stressed.
Having kids before ~27 FTL man.

yea...no shit...she's done two test and they were both neg, but she's got alot of symptoms of it still, guess i'll find out eventually....

learn to read...he said IF this was a two week relationship.

I dunno, just chill out, wait to see what happens, if things can't be smoothed over maybe its best to just call it quits and not get drawn into it even deeper.

You better fucking hope shes not. Crazy Bitch for a Mother In Law = :nono:

I'm in a lucky position that all of my girlfriends family LOVES me and my mom and dad really like her..her and my mom are both artist and she wants to be an art teacher like my mom is so they have things in common...plus shes cute and can shoot riffles and drive a tractor...so my dad approves :D

Hey Jerk im havin a kid at 25 and i have an 8 year old step daughter.....

Wait, u are right, i am to young, wonder if its to late to cancle this :)

The mom sounds like a total headcase and the daughters seems to be catching it too.

not if you roll like phillip......

https://www.miataturbo.net/forums/sh...ghlight=cobray

i'm sorry that wasn't cool.....but seriously...


thanks again guys...even though i still haven't really decided what im doing yet, atleast i kooled down a little through all this.

I did read it, look at the previous posts


learn to read all the posts :nono:

well, i dont really wanna go at her too much, especialyl since my girl reads this forum almost as often as i do.....believe it or not.......but her mom is definetely not all there, i haven't filled you guys in on a 1/10th of the shit that's goen on with her.....

hahaha not dogging on you for having kids, him being only 18 is different than 25. I won't be having any until i'm nearer to ~27 though. If kids got thrown into the equation of my life right now I would have a mental break down and move to Panama.

Come on now...we can't randomly criticize here w/ out being hypocritical lol

:gay:

PS...my bad :D

lol Ive been with my girlfriend for 12-|2| years now, we broke up in the middle for a few years. but we started dating when I was 16.

take my advice, ditch her now. lol, 2 years isnt shit.

you'll forget about her and talk about this experience with your next girlfriend like its ancient history

i have a friend that has a real nice beach house in panama :)

WARNING: Talking about this experience with other females will signifigantly reduce your chances of future meaningful relationships.

warning taken....seriously.....lol

A wise man once said if yuo ove something let it go and then you will see if it returns. In the end though you just need to give space and time and see where you both end up. Just becouse you split once doesnt mean you might not get thrown in the mix together agian. The bond of th eonly remaining parent though strained can put alot of stress on the girl and even if she totally despises the company and existance of her mother for doing things to make her feel inferior, and all together a failure. She is still the mother and it is still her house, no matter what until your Girl goes psycho enough to take her out it will always be so until they get distance and time from each other. It is a vicous cycle, just hope you find someone you care about and where meant to be with and try not to make the same mistakes with your kids. GL man i dont envy your position.

18, away at college, and no g/f
What's the problem?
:gtfo:




















Want to trade?

you're 18 years old...why do you have a gf?

You have the rest of your life to be chained to a bitch. Go to the bar, chase women, ????, profit.

all you can do is be supportive. you can't change her family.

either she'll straighten things out and you're set
she'll move out and you're set
or she'll be too hard to reconcile with and you'll find out that long distance relationships only work when they're well-established and have no hurdles.

that said, at least you wont feel guilty when you flirt with the ladies in VA Beach.

DUDE, is this gonna be your first summer in Virginia Beach? This will be my 3rd summer here and its off the fucking chain. There is so much tail here and most of it is girls on break who are only down here for a week or so who are just looking to have a good time.

yea first summer here.....this place sucks ass during the winter though, it damn well better be better in the summer, there's NOTHING to do....EVER

how old are you?

I think the best thing you could do break up, at least for now. Call your GF, tell her that you love her, you are sorry for putting her between you and her mother, and because you love her you are there for her if she needs you.


Then move on and find another girl locally.

I hate when 18 year olds or even highschool kids have a car better than mine. :sadwavey:

why do you say that? ur's moves doesn't it? cause mine sure as hell doesn't

well not the miata anyway, the 240 is a POS though (in my personal opinion they all are though)

i paid every dime of my car/insurance/mods/etc... by myself though, so this is MY car, not mommy and daddy's

I wasted my first 3 years of college being depressed over a girl. I hate to do this, but somebody must. You only live once. Never again in your life will you have access to so many college girls. Do it now before you have to lease a $60k german car to get attractive women to play with you. You must sexor every woman you see.I'm about to go back to grad school, just so I can chase women again, and I'm only 26.
Its just a girl. Do you plan on marrying this girl? Do you really think that fighting with this situation is more enjoyable than trolling for whores for the next 4 years?


Don't screw up these years, because you will never have so little responsibility, and so much pussy in your face again.

THE THING WITH THAT IS:

I'm in an automitve tech school....and i'm only here for about six more months, that's the main reason i wanna hang on to this, because in six months i'll be back up there living there and we were PLANNING on, finding somewhere to move in together as soon as i got back....and yea, i know we're young and all, and feel free to tell me i'm stupid, w/e but we had some pretty serious talks about getting married, yes.

i cant believe this thread has 45 replies....i couldnt bare to read it all...:gay:


Brian, what you should do is go over to the Blue Horseshoe and get some tattoos from my buddy Joe.

http://www.jerksofamerica.com/images/joe4.jpg

I wish I could save you from yourself.

got two already......dont ask.....

and no they dont have anything to do with the female we're descussing, LOL

i thought i might have 1... MAYBE 2 replies before it got ignored....

YEA...so do i, i'm going f-ing insane here

If she's knocked up you are fucked, especially since you will have no control over the situation but will be expected to step up. Don't get me wrong, I think if you took part in making the child you have a responsibilty.

You think you situation is dire now, throw a child into the mix. Nothing makes a psycho chick crazier then "motherhood". In the best case having a kid at 17-18 years old is tough (my parents did back in the day), but your GF and family certainly don't sound like the best case. In fact it sounds like you'll end up on Springer.

IF she'd not knocked up, move on and get the fuck out. Way too young to have this much stress in your life. Have fun, next thing you know you'll be old and saddled with responsibility.

Women are tough enough to figure all by themselves - stir in a slightly crazy mother and life's a minefield. I watched 2 brothers go through bad shit over mother-interference problems, and they never got better until divorce-time.

If this is an aberration with the mom, that's one thing. If it's the usual deal, just amplified, Run for your life!

And wear rubbers.

just don't let this go so far that..... you end up saying this:

:gay: :dancegay:

I feel your pain brother! I was married when I came to Iraq and I'm still here and divorced....psycho parents had alot to do with our doomed marriage(and a wife that runs to her folks when her husband leaves)if wouldn't be bad if her folks weren't Psycho. but dang brother your 18 plans change a lot when you're that young.(at least they did for me )(I'm 25) Ok I'll quit talking nonsense, I guess 20 hour missions do that to ya!

later fellas

It just needed to be said again.

^^^^ what they said

can we atleast take my name outta that quote?

its a joke man, nobody thinks you really said it :squint:

Yesterday I was sitting at a light, and some dude in a truck turning left slowed way down and casually said, "fag." hahaha, it was so casual, I lol'd.