How foolish is it to move to Houston with my GF temporarily?
07-01-2011, 10:58 AM
#102
I don't have any advice for you on your moving/gf situation that hasn't already been said... but I saw the comment below and thought I'd give some advice since it's a situation I've just extricated myself from.
Six years ago I'd have agreed with you... but after working for the egomaniac that owns the shop I work for (for another 11 days) I'd vehemently disagree. People who work for successful race shops rarely get on track because they're always at the track working 14 hour days... when they're not they're in the shop prepping for the next event. Damn near every shop owner I've met is like my current employer, they run the shop to fund THEIR toy and racing budget and have no interest at all in their employees welfare let alone their ability to go to the track. Our shop (one of the premier vintage race shops in the US), has a staff of around 10 generally and in ~6 years I've watched over 30 people go in/out the door. That sort of turnover says something about a business. They've been in business for 19 years, and have only one tech who's been there more than 6 years (owners son-in-law) and even he's only been there about 11years. If you want to know more, I can relate tons of stories (lol, ask Sav... he's heard lots of them) but suffice it to say...
It's not the dream job most enthusiasts think it is...
It's not the dream job most enthusiasts think it is...
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07-01-2011, 11:25 AM
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Loving yourself more than your spouse is why 50% of marriages end in divorce.
1. Pick the right girl. She needs to demonstrate the behavior of sacrificing her wants and needs for yours when necessary. If she respects you enough to put your wants first, then she is a giving companion to you.
2. Be the right guy. You need to demonstrate the behavior of sacrificing your wants and needs for hers when necessary. If you respect her enough to put her wants first, then you are a giving companion to her.
If she is unkind to strangers run away. If she doesn't give people the benefit of the doubt, run away. If she is selfish, run away.
If she is generous to people that have nothing for her in return, she is good. If she performs acts of kindness for you because she truly desires to see you happy, she is good.
Selfish people destroy themselves and their relationships. Some people will always be selfish and will never have a lasting, fulfilling relationship. Their marriages will be unhappy and be failures.
Hustler knows if she is truly good or not. If she is good, the bond will likely grow deeper with time. If she is not good, heed the warning signs early and run away.
1. Pick the right girl. She needs to demonstrate the behavior of sacrificing her wants and needs for yours when necessary. If she respects you enough to put your wants first, then she is a giving companion to you.
2. Be the right guy. You need to demonstrate the behavior of sacrificing your wants and needs for hers when necessary. If you respect her enough to put her wants first, then you are a giving companion to her.
If she is unkind to strangers run away. If she doesn't give people the benefit of the doubt, run away. If she is selfish, run away.
If she is generous to people that have nothing for her in return, she is good. If she performs acts of kindness for you because she truly desires to see you happy, she is good.
Selfish people destroy themselves and their relationships. Some people will always be selfish and will never have a lasting, fulfilling relationship. Their marriages will be unhappy and be failures.
Hustler knows if she is truly good or not. If she is good, the bond will likely grow deeper with time. If she is not good, heed the warning signs early and run away.
That logic doesn't fly. It's like saying, "10% of the adult male population is gay. Therefore, if you have 9 friends who aren't gay, that means you are most likely gay."
I know my marriage is (and will be) different because my wife and I treat our marriage differently.
I know my marriage is (and will be) different because my wife and I treat our marriage differently.
Way too many people go into it thinking: "well if it doesn't work out I'll just bail". Way too many people don't give a **** and live their whole life with one finger on the "eject button".
You don't like something? **** it, DIVORCE.
That's bullshit, and probably the biggest reason for such high divorce rate.
In other countries divorce is looked upon with fear, disgust, and is pretty much the absolute LAST resort before death or something like that. I mean, people know that if they divorce they will be looked down upon by everyone else, and pretty much be an outcast. So they go into it way more seriously, and work at it as hard as they can, and while some still end up splitting up, its nowhere near what it is here in America.
Just my opinion/observation
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07-01-2011, 11:41 AM
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This is clearly the best woman I've ever met.
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07-01-2011, 11:56 AM
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Hustler. Interview for sales jobs in Houston. Seriously, unless you have an evil boss like yours or a **** territory and a **** product it's a great gig. Nobody wants to do sales because they are pussies so there are a ****-ton of jobs out there. Just try to interview at a few places and ask about product/company success, quota, territory, habits of most successful reps etc.
That line of work will also nicely complement your GFs ambition to reduce global poverty. Or whatever the inverse of that is haha
That line of work will also nicely complement your GFs ambition to reduce global poverty. Or whatever the inverse of that is haha
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07-01-2011, 12:24 PM
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That is all I need to know. Congratulations, because you will be just fine together. Just don't **** this up by being selfish. It takes serious ***** at this step. Time to man up. Some things are worth fighting for. I'm happy you found someone worth it. Not everyone does. Man up and hang on to her and don't let her go. 
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07-01-2011, 12:30 PM
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That is all I need to know. Congratulations, because you will be just fine together. Just don't **** this up by being selfish. It takes serious ***** at this step. Time to man up. Some things are worth fighting for. I'm happy you found someone worth it. Not everyone does. Man up and hang on to her and don't let her go.
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07-01-2011, 01:33 PM
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I find it sad that a lot of you, and some in society, seem marriage as a purely legal institution. It is a slippery slope of what is fine for marriage the more people look at it this way. Pretty soon it will be sure why cant you marry fluffy the cat, because the significance of marriage is being devaluated.
Contrary to the belief of some, homosexuals are indeed humans and not cats or any other animal.
It's not that marriage is a purely legal institution. It's that the religious part of it is irrelevant now because so many legal implications have been applied to marriage.
The LOVE part of marriage has always been irrelevant. Or at least to the 14 year old girls getting married before they understand what love (and puberty) even is. I think it's refreshing now that we have a choice to marry for the reasons we want--including love. That's why I did it. Not for money, not for some religion.
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07-01-2011, 02:49 PM
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While I'm tempted to agree, I've had feelings for a few females in my day.
The latest was the nurse practitioner at my doctor's office. Total knockout and the good job was just a bonus. Sure, she's one of the few women who've ever seen my ***** flaccid but she grew very familiar with it during my biannual visits.
I had to think about the grossest **** to keep from becoming engorged in her paw.
The latest was the nurse practitioner at my doctor's office. Total knockout and the good job was just a bonus. Sure, she's one of the few women who've ever seen my ***** flaccid but she grew very familiar with it during my biannual visits.
I had to think about the grossest **** to keep from becoming engorged in her paw.
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07-01-2011, 03:31 PM
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Your slope is very slippery.
Contrary to the belief of some, homosexuals are indeed humans and not cats or any other animal.
It's not that marriage is a purely legal institution. It's that the religious part of it is irrelevant now because so many legal implications have been applied to marriage.
The LOVE part of marriage has always been irrelevant. Or at least to the 14 year old girls getting married before they understand what love (and puberty) even is. I think it's refreshing now that we have a choice to marry for the reasons we want--including love. That's why I did it. Not for money, not for some religion.
Contrary to the belief of some, homosexuals are indeed humans and not cats or any other animal.
It's not that marriage is a purely legal institution. It's that the religious part of it is irrelevant now because so many legal implications have been applied to marriage.
The LOVE part of marriage has always been irrelevant. Or at least to the 14 year old girls getting married before they understand what love (and puberty) even is. I think it's refreshing now that we have a choice to marry for the reasons we want--including love. That's why I did it. Not for money, not for some religion.
It is actually not slippery at all. It is very sound because when people start to say this is what I want where do you draw the line. It is like people misunderstanding the terms freedom and liberty. It does not mean you can do what you want.
But suffice to say that you made my point, marriage is now seen as a legal act (tax break, saving, etc) not as a deeper commitment. Thats why so many people get divorced. The see it as a legal contract that can be entered of left when terms are broken. People have this fallacies that marriage is bliss. It is not. It is a PITA that you will have for the rest of your living days. If people enter marriage fully accepting that and the commitment to work things out rather than leave when they dont get their way then things would not be like they are. Marriage is not a legal document to man.
My fiance and I both fully come this marriage knowing that at some point we will be pissed off at each other. I am actually very glad that for us to get married we have to attend many marriage prep courses, and pre marriage counseling before we are ok by our priest.
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