hustler

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She's not a very big fan of the IMF. Jump to the other end of the spectrum.

Braineack

iTrader: (62)

I figure I needed to add some words of advice. What better than Jedi wisdom?

y8s

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and that's the difference between married and non married.

married: if **** goes wrong, you work hard together to fix it

not married: if **** goes wrong, **** that *****!


maybe you shouldn't move then. scottfw's frequent road trip idea sounds pretty good.

Braineack

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Is it sad that I wish my wife was moving the Houston for a job? I'd leave here in a heart beat.

chpmnsws6

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X2 on all accounts.

Driving till you find a decent job in the area would be what I'd do.

rharris19

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You Yanks aint welcome here. The economy here is always pretty damn strong. We slowed down for about 3 months and then kicked right back up.

hustler

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Marriage is a little different in my perspective considering my mother and father were married a combined 12 times each and my step mother and father just divorced because it was financially convenient due to his health condition.

you can't tell me that marriage binds people together.

Faeflora

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Being that I will never breed, I would only marry if the girl had higher net worth than me. Regard bitches, aquire currency.

chicksdigmiatas

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Well that was going to be my initial advise. If you do what I do, and make stupid assed threads when you're drunk, then you are achieving true baller status. Also, on the GS14 thing, I totally agree, they don't do a damn thing. Around here, the only thing that can get them to do **** is the General. O6 and below need not try.

Edit at what Y8s said. I would have had my wife on a plane back home a time or two if we weren't married. But we worked things out, and I am glad we did. I know damn good and well that wouldn't have worked out if we weren't. Plus, I know a ring doesn't stop some guys, but there is always going to be guys trying to swoop in since you aren't married. I know when I was single, and a girl said she had a boyfriend, I just kind of laughed off. I was usually right. Nothing like a good ****-block.

Braineack

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Yanks? We fought for the South...

mgeoffriau

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The fact that some (or even most) people treat marriage as if it means nothing does not prove that it, in fact, means nothing.

rharris19

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Don't try to change stuff with your "facts" Yank. You still aint welcome.

saint_foo

Cold-hearted closet person.

gearhead_318

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100% correct. Some treat it with reverence and fight to keep theirs going. Others don't give 2 ***** and look for an easy way out (not that divorce is always an easy way out, not saying it is). It's really as important or trivial as the couple decide to make it.

ThatGuy85

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There's tons of jobs available in a big city like houston. Ditto what a lot of others have said, let her move and work on the job hunting. Hell my company actually has an office in houston. If you want I can give you some contact info..

I do agree that getting shithouse drunk is the appropriate thing to do tonight, however.

chicksdigmiatas

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We are all in agreement then.. Alcohol will solve all of your problems.

wayne_curr

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I didn't read the rest of the thread but I have to agree with this. We're not talking about 1500 miles of space between you two. Keep your good job and help her pay rent in a nice place. What school is she going to? My friend has a really nice studio rental in mid-town.

Visit her almost every weekend. Go to driving events less, but dont give it up completely. Keep working on your nest egg. Re-assess the situation in a year. I know how you feel, but 18 months is really not a long time at all.

I'm a firm believer that being apart really helps you grow together in a lot of ways. My girlfriend and I were in different cities for 3 years (while she was in school) and I only saw here on the weekends, if not every other weekend. We've been together for 6 (or 7?) years now, living together for 3.

Edit:

Oh ****, this for sure. Forget everything I said.

y8s

iTrader: (8)

fine, call it whatever you want and do it however you want. the point was that at some point in a relationship you know you're going to stay together and get "married" to each other (whether religious, civil, or just pinky swears and no contract with god or whatever) and you commit to work **** out instead of giving up and running away from the problem.

if you both want an easy exit strategy from this 18 month relationship, then I don't think it's necessarily worth changing up the life you enjoy currently.

rleete

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Hustler, just one thing. Marriage is NOT a religious ceremony. I am about the strongest advocate against organized religion you will ever meet, and I got married. Yes, in a church, because that was what was expected. But the setting is immaterial.

Marriage is a VOW. I swore, in front of family and friends (and some would say God, but I disagree) that we'd be together "till death do us part". Divorce is a weasle out, IMO. You give your word, you are expected to keep it. I, for one, intend to do so.


If you are not ready for that kind of commitment (and most are not), then do what is right for YOU. If you sacrifice for her, and later decide it wasn't worth it, you will regret it and begin to resent her.

Faeflora

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I've gotten three people divorces (all the paperwork etc). Marriage is an outdated social convention which is based on the bullshit notion that a) love is forever, b) people give a **** about one another, c) people give a **** about themselves, d) blah humbug.