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Old 06-30-2011, 05:37 PM   #81
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marriage is different to everyone, and for good reason. It doesn't have to mean any one thing or any multitude of things.

It can be as little as a fiscal merger and as much as some jesus freaks doing nothing but convincing themselves they are happy with doing it in the missionary position for 30+ years.

I have a feeling hustler doesn't really give a **** what I or any of the rest of us actually think about marriage. I will say that just like all things in life, it doesn't have to be to you... what it is to everyone else. I personally got married for the fiscal advantages and to keep that bitch nailed down, not because some one told me I should or because I believe in god (don't).
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Old 06-30-2011, 05:38 PM   #82
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I've gotten three people divorces (all the paperwork etc). Marriage is an outdated social convention which is based on the bullshit notion that a) love is forever, b) people give a **** about one another, c) people give a **** about themselves, d) blah humbug.
you are a fucked up being.
seriously. I lose faith in mankind reading your words.
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Old 06-30-2011, 05:42 PM   #83
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you are a fucked up being.
seriously. I lose faith in mankind reading your words.


We're nihilists. We believe in NOTHING!
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Old 06-30-2011, 06:14 PM   #84
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good song.
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Old 06-30-2011, 06:42 PM   #85
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I married my wife in a nice ceremony, no church or other cult practices involved. And we only spent $700.

Meh.

I'm just surprised no one's asked for nudes to "access the situation" yet. Probably scared of His hustleness.
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Old 06-30-2011, 07:31 PM   #86
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you are a fucked up being.
seriously. I lose faith in mankind reading your words.
The thought has crossed my mind that Fae might be a sociopath.
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Old 06-30-2011, 07:42 PM   #87
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I would have at least expected the thread title to read BF. MT.net, I am disappoint.
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Old 06-30-2011, 08:29 PM   #88
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You say you hate your job and love the girl. Therefore, I say you should keep the job and lose the girl.

You were much more interesting when you were miserable.


A man will never be truly happy until he finds someone he loves more than himself. If she is good, follow her. If you love her, follow her.


Accrued years of government service at the federal level often count at the state, county and city level toward retirement pay. You will receive preferential treatment in the local hiring process as a current federal employee. There are gazillions of agencies and odd departments at all of those levels that you don't even realize exist. Even if you weren't directly tied to emergency response in your daily work, some management person would get a feather in their cap for luring some expert away from FEMA.

Private corporations that do the type of work that causes them to deal with people in your position now would often times love to have someone working for them that knows the ins and outs of dealing with FEMA. Many would love to hire someone to act as a liaison to FEMA that knew the do's and don'ts. You could appear quite valuable to many types of employers due to your specific experience. Streamlining their efforts in dealing with the government would be very helpful and save them money and time. How many times are payments delayed due to problems with submittals? I say use what experience you've got instead of starting at the bottom rung. Let it work for you.

If worse comes to worse, you could always hate a job in Houston just as much as the one you hate now. But you would have her.
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Old 06-30-2011, 09:46 PM   #89
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Hey, Hustler, nudes first then advice kthx.
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Old 06-30-2011, 10:26 PM   #90
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****...lets please throw around word "Love" more in this thread. I wonder why people think Miata drivers are old men or dainty little boys. Don't be an idiot and leave your job to follow her. The world (NA) hasn't exactly had a staggering turn around of the unemployment metric. It is tough to jump into a decent job that you actually like these days. At the very least don't go right away. It is much easier to find a job when you have a job. If she is going to med school you are in for a treat. She is going to exhibit two behaviors; wired/wound (<- take cover, she is literally going to break your dick off...not in the way you would want) or exhausted (more likely and this leads to sad man parts...dust off the old jacking hand). Don't give this decision anymore thought and go out find an actual doctor.


Post nudes: I bet they won't change my opinion.
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Old 06-30-2011, 11:35 PM   #91
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I find it sad that a lot of you, and some in society, seem marriage as a purely legal institution. It is a slippery slope of what is fine for marriage the more people look at it this way. Pretty soon it will be sure why cant you marry fluffy the cat, because the significance of marriage is being devaluated.

I find being with my fiance for the rest of my life as exciting. I know it wont be easy, and that I will not always be happy but i'm not going to pull some weak @ss @#@# and quit on it. And her being a child of divorce will not do either.

Either way. If its real and for good move. If not don not. "there is no try"
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Old 07-01-2011, 01:26 AM   #92
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I've gotten three people divorces (all the paperwork etc). Marriage is an outdated social convention which is based on the bullshit notion that a) love is forever, b) people give a **** about one another, c) people give a **** about themselves, d) blah humbug.
****, what I meant to write was, "I've done all the paperwork for three separate couples so they could get divorces.

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you are a fucked up being.
seriously. I lose faith in mankind reading your words.
Good. Having faith at all was a bad idea. Faith disregards empirical reality. Also, I appreciate that you didn't mistake me for a human being. )

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The thought has crossed my mind that Fae might be a sociopath.
According to the DSM IV, yes, I am. I am also creative so I ******* win all over your face.

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Old 07-01-2011, 02:00 AM   #93
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you are a fucked up being.
seriously. I lose faith in mankind reading your words.
You have to see his logic though, with a 50% divorce rate, how can anyone be sure their marriage will be any different? I don't care how devoted you are, you only make up half the couple, who knows how devoted the other half is, only she does (or he does, if you live in NY).

Hustler, we are going to have to see some pictures, nudes or not.
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Old 07-01-2011, 02:27 AM   #94
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Will trade wife nudes for GF nudes... LMKWYT. You have a boosted miata. I know also how I have taken backroads most of the way to SA, avoided traffic, and not seen a single cop while running triple digits on these roads. I also slowed down enough to find a place called snows BBQ in Lexington. Epic win. So that being said, I am sure there are enough county and state roads that are straight or mildly sweeping to be a blast at high speed in miatas. I am also pretty sure that those little counties have about 50 county roads, and 2 cops. I have never seen a small town cop in Texas like I did in the southeast. I really just haul mad *** on those back roads and dont give a poo.
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Old 07-01-2011, 02:35 AM   #95
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I think hustler may be just searching for justification for a decision he's already made. If he's the boss he says he is, he'll just go with his gut feeling and it'll probably be right.

I moved for a bitch once. Even getting engaged to her was ultimately going against my gut feeling. Sure enough, the super crazy **** really came out and I had to break it off, leaving myself financially fucked for about 6 months. (Lulz part is that bitch got knocked up not 6 months after I ditched her, so glad I avoided that disasterpiece)

Sometimes you gotta gamble man. FWIW, being single is cool and all, but being lonely is something that sucks to get used to.
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Old 07-01-2011, 03:06 AM   #96
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I think hustler may be just searching for justification for a decision he's already made. If he's the boss he says he is, he'll just go with his gut feeling and it'll probably be right.

I moved for a bitch once. Even getting engaged to her was ultimately going against my gut feeling. Sure enough, the super crazy **** really came out and I had to break it off, leaving myself financially fucked for about 6 months. (Lulz part is that bitch got knocked up not 6 months after I ditched her, so glad I avoided that disasterpiece)

Sometimes you gotta gamble man. FWIW, being single is cool and all, but being lonely is something that sucks to get used to.
Yeah, the best advice (next to intoxication) the whole thread. Me a man and go with your instinct. Be the boss that you are on here, and you will win. Go with what you want to go with. I know you have a conscience burried in there somewhere, but you have to go with your first answer. So just do what you want, and don't let us fairies influence what you want. Hell, be selfish. The only thing that keeps me from being such is religion, so just do what makes you feel right, and what YOU think is best for you. Take car if binnness like a bawsz.
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Hell, be selfish.
Loving yourself more than your spouse is why 50% of marriages end in divorce.

1. Pick the right girl. She needs to demonstrate the behavior of sacrificing her wants and needs for yours when necessary. If she respects you enough to put your wants first, then she is a giving companion to you.

2. Be the right guy. You need to demonstrate the behavior of sacrificing your wants and needs for hers when necessary. If you respect her enough to put her wants first, then you are a giving companion to her.

If she is unkind to strangers run away. If she doesn't give people the benefit of the doubt, run away. If she is selfish, run away.

If she is generous to people that have nothing for her in return, she is good. If she performs acts of kindness for you because she truly desires to see you happy, she is good.

Selfish people destroy themselves and their relationships. Some people will always be selfish and will never have a lasting, fulfilling relationship. Their marriages will be unhappy and be failures.

Hustler knows if she is truly good or not. If she is good, the bond will likely grow deeper with time. If she is not good, heed the warning signs early and run away.
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You have to see his logic though, with a 50% divorce rate, how can anyone be sure their marriage will be any different? I don't care how devoted you are, you only make up half the couple, who knows how devoted the other half is, only she does (or he does, if you live in NY).
That logic doesn't fly. It's like saying, "10% of the adult male population is gay. Therefore, if you have 9 friends who aren't gay, that means you are most likely gay."

I know my marriage is (and will be) different because my wife and I treat our marriage differently.
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it's only 3%.
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it's only 3%.
Pedant.
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